How to deal with Your Doubts and Achieve what you want?
In this 60‑minute live webinar, life‑success coach Mayur Bardolia explains how doubt sabotages personal and professional success and offers a step‑by‑step framework for recognizing, questioning, and neutralising it. He begins with housekeeping instructions, then shares a client story that illustrates how an investor’s doubts can destroy a promising business. Bardolia defines doubt as an unconscious, protective feeling that often becomes irrational, and he asks participants to identify the areas of their own lives where doubt appears (career, relationships, skills, knowledge, etc.). He introduces two powerful self‑questioning techniques – “What is stopping you?” and “What would happen if you did?” – to shift focus from fear to possibility. The session includes several embodied exercises: a superhero posture breathing drill, a “visual squash” where doubts are imagined in the left hand and positive emotions in the right hand, and a series of visualisation and intensity‑boosting actions. He also discusses when doubt can be constructive (questioning negative assumptions) versus destructive, reframes failure as feedback, and stresses the importance of taking action despite uncertainty. The webinar ends with a call to action, offering free 30‑minute consultations, contact details, and encouragement to adopt courage, confidence, and continuous learning.
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So, all right then. So let's start our journey. So our webinar today is about how to deal with your doubts and achieve what you want. So first of all, few instructions to all of you: use your microphone appropriately. So if you don't need to use microphone, please don't use it. Otherwise, you know, I will. Hear some noise from your microphone and it will be disturbing for others too. Use chat box to send me a message and to ask or answer the questions I'm going to ask you. Write down as much as possible and ask question because no question is stupid question. Remember, learning occurs only when it comes in your behavior. So whatever you're going to learn today, if you are not going to implement that, so there's no point to learn. And, uh, if you have any doubt, you can always reach me on the chat box or just send me a message. And, uh, yeah, you can also WhatsApp me if you want. It's that easy. So first of all, uh, my name is Mayur Bardolia. You know, if you, if you don't know me And I'm a life success coach and inspirational speaker, author, and hypnotherapist. I wrote 2 books so far. Topic number one was, uh, how to conquer your procrastination and get your things done easily. And the second book was about conversational hypnosis, which was all about how to, you know, influence others effectively. Why doubt is a destroyer. So first of all, you know, let me share with you one story of one of my clients. And, uh, he, you know, he had a very good idea. He wanted to start his business, and he, uh, he was very enthusiastic in the beginning, and he wanted to make really good money. He thought, you know, his idea is, is a million-dollar idea and people will like it. And he was hiring people And he was doing wonderful, in fact. And, you know, surprisingly, he has done a wonderful job in first 6 months of time, and which is very critical for any business because most of the businesses, you know, you know, they, they fail in first 6 months or 1 year, right? Uh, but with him, in his case, his motivation was so high, he was working day and night, and he was very confident, and he was doing wonderful for first 6 months. And then after, he needed some money, so he hired one of his friends as an investor. And things actually started going ugly from this moment because his friend had so many doubts. He had a doubt about the product or service. He had a doubt about the market. He had a doubt about what if people don't like our idea. He had a doubt about what if our teammates will go. He had also doubt about in the competition. And he was slowly and gradually planting the seeds of doubts in my client's mind. And eventually, my client actually felt really uncomfortable. He started, you know, creating doubts in his mind about his own product or service. His motivation was going down. And ultimately, within about 1 year or so, he lost his business. So that was pathetic. And he was losing money, and after two years' time, he could not survive, and he had to shut down the business. So I got to got to understand this story after two years of his you know of his failure, and I asked him you know what actually went wrong, and he just tried to recollect the memory, and then he suddenly realized that you know he he chose the bad partner. His partner was seeding some. and some doubts, you know, in his mind. And eventually that was growing inside his mind. And so then, so like this, you know, he lost his business. So let me just ask you, you know, where have you lost the business so far? You might be having some doubts in your life, you know, about your own personal life, maybe, you know, your relationship, your career, and maybe your business. Maybe about your friends, maybe about your family. Now, why doubt is a destroyer? Just like my client, you know, people lose opportunities, people lose time, people lose money, people lose resources and energy and enthusiasm just because of doubt. And people ask themselves, what's wrong with me? And the problem is with the doubts only. And so doubt is the beginning of the failure. Right, so when you are not confident, you start feeling doubts. So let's move on. What is doubt, by the way? Doubt is actually an unconscious response. It's only a feeling, just like happiness, sadness, frustration, and joy, etc. And why is it feeling? Because every feeling is an unconscious response. Do you actually decide consciously to be happy or sad? No. No, you just, you know, feel unconsciously and you have no control over that. So that's how the doubt is generated. You have no control over doubt and it's just a feeling only. Our doubt cannot actually find the difference— sorry, our subconscious mind cannot differentiate what is real danger and what is not real danger. Now the problem is when you climb the stairs, let's say Our mind is constantly guiding us whether we are taking the steps correctly or not. Although we have climbed the stairs, you know, 100 times or thousands of times in our life, so we don't actually pay attention to this unconscious activity going on at the back of our mind. But our mind is constantly reminding us to secure ourselves from the possible danger, and that's what we, what we call doubt. Doubt is all about Protecting us from the failure, from the possible danger. So that's what we learn. Now let me ask you some question. In what areas of your life you think you have doubt? This is very important question because if you don't have any doubts, there is no point you attend this webinar. Now I asked some— I asked these questions to many people. So, you know, some of the answers are like You know, people have a doubt about their career, their relationship, about their current job. You know, when they apply for the new job, you know, they have a doubt, you know, will I get selected or not? And even if you're doing a job, you know, you might have a doubt if you are— if you get promoted or not. And maybe, you know, you have a doubt about your product or service or a business idea or maybe future plan. That's completely fine. And, uh, maybe you have a doubt about You know, am I going in the right direction? And that's completely fine. And you may have a doubt about your skills too, like, you know, I don't think I'm good at communication, I don't think I have the leadership skill, and I don't think I'm really creative for this kind of work. Or maybe you have the doubt about your knowledge, like, you know, I don't think I'm capable enough to do this job, I'm not really educated, I don't think, you know, I know about this. So these are the types of answers, you know, I receive from many people. You know, in these areas people have a doubt. Perfect. So yeah, so just find out, you know, if you have a doubt in any of these area. And, uh, yeah, so next one is what limitations you have. Okay, just, uh, answer this question. What limitations you think you have? Uh, yeah, so I don't think I can, or I cannot, and I'm not too sure about. Then fill in the blank, and it's a very wonderful exercise you should do. So what limitations you think you have? So there you go. Let's start. Now, if you have a doubt about anything, I got really wonderful questions for you. But before I go into questions, let me share with you one story. I've been to one seminar about a few months back, and I was a part of the audience, and there was a wonderful speaker. He was talking about behavioral science, and I was really enjoying, and the speaker was wonderful. But during the first break, you know, we were asked to go out and have a tea or coffee. So we all were, you know, you know, going out of the room, but the door was locked, and there was no handle on the door to pull the door to open. And people tried to push it, but they were unable to open the door. So we were really, you know, confused, and we had a doubt, you know, if we can able to, you know, get out of this room or not. So we tried every single technique to get out of this room, uh, but unfortunately, you know, none of our technical strategies work. So we had a doubt, you know, what if we get trapped in this room forever? And then the speaker noticed us, and speaker asked us to notice a panel next to a door, and there were some digits, some numbers on it. So he asked us to enter certain digits, about 4 digits in that. So we entered those numbers, and the door was open. So then after, I just realized, you know, in many areas of our life, we have kept the door shut just because it requires a different strategy, a different key to open that door. In fact, we are not trapped. In fact, every single puzzle is solvable, okay? Everything is figureoutable. But unfortunately, we don't try our best to open that door. We need to find different strategies, different keys, and different techniques to open those doors. But we are not doing it. So like, you have the door at your home, but if you go to a hotel, they got a different set of locks. Every single lock requires different strategy to open it. Now people come to me and they always tell me that I don't think I can do it, I, I cannot do those kind of things. Oh, I'm not too sure about, you know, you know, about my job. Oh, I'm not too sure about my business idea. I don't think I can make really good money. So when people, you know, describe this kind of problems to me, I ask them 2 questions. They're really powerful questions. Today, number one question is, what is stopping you, right? What is stopping you, and what would happen if you did? So first of all, my question is, what stops you? I mean, by all means, you can do whatever you want to do. No one is stopping you to move ahead. Now this question is really powerful. What generally people do is they think about the past, that if they have done something wrong in the past, they think it's going to happen again. But let me tell you, your past does not automatically equal to your future, okay? So do what you're supposed to do, take action, and learn from it. No one is stopping you apart from you. So question is, what stops you, right? And another question is, what would happen if I did? Very powerful. So if I'm going to ask you what stops you, that, you know, stops you to think about the past and the mistakes you have done in the past, the failures you have faced in life. And now this question helps you to create the new feature representation, okay? And you think about the positive future. What's going to happen if you do? And, uh, I just want to ask you, what's going to happen with you if you don't have a doubt? We could cover in detail later on anyway, but what would happen if there's no doubt at all? You succeed, only you make money, or you find a good job, you do your business very well, so whatsoever. So find out what would happen If you do what you're supposed to do. Now the question is, like I say, what would happen and what will you get in next 12 months if you don't have a doubt at all? Okay, if you don't have a doubt at all, what's going to happen in your life? Now, perfect. So just tell me, uh, what's going to happen in your life In next twelve months, and tell me if you know, if you don't have any doubt at all, what's going to happen? Just be fearless. Okay. Let me tell you one more example. One of my friend, he gave me wonderful idea. In fact, you know when I started my business, you know I'm in in this field, in the early phase of career, in the early stage of this business, I wasn't taking really good actions. In fact, it took me a very long time to produce my first video. And the thing is, it took so long. And I, on the very first day of my business, I decided that I'm going to produce more videos. But took me a hell lot of time, too many months to produce my first video. In fact, that wasn't possible without my friend's support. So I was just talking to my friend. I thought, you know, I'm— I just really want to make a video, but I have a doubt that What if my video quality won't be good? What if people don't like it? I don't know how to upload on YouTube. I don't know how to find the right camera. I don't know how to speak in front of camera, and I have no confidence at all, you know, to speak in front of camera, and I'm not confident. So my friends suggested me that how much you can stretch yourself, okay, very powerful. How much you can stretch yourself In fact, the thing is, we don't stretch ourselves. Okay, let me ask you, if you go to gym, what do you do in the gym? You do exercises, you stretch your body. And what happens if you stretch your body? You become stronger. The same way, if you don't stretch your mental muscles, how are you going to grow? How are you going to be strong? How are you going to be fit? So when I launched my first video, I could not believe that, you know, I had a doubt. About creating a video, it is a really easy job. But the thing is, I was stopping myself for a long time. But then after, it took another, you know, few months to produce my first course on video. I had a doubt about the video course. In fact, I always wanted to produce my video courses, but I wasn't confident enough to make the video course. I was just thinking, oh, where will I get the really good, you know, microphone or Uh, in a camcorder and how I'm going to do setup, how I'm going to do editing and all those special effects and all those things. I was having a doubt that I, I will be unable to do it. But the thing is, as soon as I launched my first video course, I was very happy. I thought it was, it was really possible. I mean, it was that easy. And in the next month, in, I think next 15 days only, I launched my another course. So it was very easy for me. So the thing is, you doubt yourself and you stopping yourself. No one else is stopping you. Okay, super. So I guess you have the answer what would happen and what you will get, you know, in the next 12 months if you don't have a doubt at all. So just remember, stretch yourself. Okay, so I just, I asked this question that what would happen in your life in next 12 months If you don't have any doubt at all, and they say, "Oh, I will be more productive. I will make more money, and I will enjoy relationship, and I will achieve my outcome. I will have more fun, and I have more courage, and I will serve more people." Yeah. So maybe you have the idea like this. Cool. So. Tell me, how do you how do you feel? You know, how how would you you know what changes will happen in your life if you have no doubt at all? Fantastic. Now, what is doubt? You know, like we already explained, it's an unconscious response, and it's only a feeling, just like happiness, sadness, frustration, joy, and fear. Now, when we have doubt, we are feeling doubt. Okay, it's just a feeling. And doubt is fear, and fear, you know, it means false expectation appearing as real. Okay, so there is no such thing as fear— false expectations appearing real— and fear is not real. Now, when you have doubt, you are thinking about the future, okay, and you're thinking about the negative future. Now, if you have the freedom to think about the negative consequences You have the freedom to think about the positive consequences too. Okay, if you think that bad things will happen, but how are you going to know that things will go wrong? And if you have the freedom to think about the negative consequences, you know, you still have the freedom to think about the positive things. So why not positive then? Okay, why not positive? Another thing. Answer these questions. Very powerful. How certain are you about your uncertainty? Okay, how certain are you about your uncertainty? So how sure you are about your doubts? Okay, how sure you are about your doubt? And are you sure about a doubt? And when people ask me, you know, I think I'm going to fail. I think I'm not going to make really good money. I just ask them, how do you know in advance? I mean, are you God? I mean, I mean, how can you just see the future? It's impossible to see the future, is it? I mean, it's all right to do planning, it's all right to do, you know, meticulous, you know, plans and organizing things and all those things, but can you see the future? I don't think you can. So how certain are you about your own doubts? Okay, and how, uh, how sure you are about your doubt? And people say, oh no, no, I'm not— this thing's going to happen. Now what is absolutely true? Tell me what is true. There's no such thing as ultimate truth. There is no such thing as universal truth, and it's very subjective. So, you know, whatever you hold yourself in your mind, whatever you speak to yourself in your mind, it's true— it's not true. You know, don't believe everything you think. Right, okay. Don't believe everything you think. It's a very wonderful quote. Don't believe everything you think. Now, what do you want instead of doubt? Okay, what is the opposite of doubt? So people say, you know, it's certainty, and, uh, it's courage, it's enthusiasm, it's belief, faith, and confidence. So just list down 3 examples in your life The support approve it. Okay, so if you don't have doubt, what do you want instead? What what do you want instead of doubt? So maybe you want courage in your life. So three examples. You know, give me three examples you had in your life when you showed courage. I mean, you know, you were never you know coward or you did not show any courage. There must be some time in your life and when you showed some courage in your life. When was the three times in your life you showed enthusiasm? And you want to have positive belief and productive belief, and you want to have faith instead. And in fact, you know, you have confidence in your life, you know, many things in your life. So why don't you remember about those things? In fact, you are— you have all those qualities in order to eliminate all those doubts. You know, there must be some time you were quite certain, you know. And the thing is You just don't remember those things. You always love to think about, you know what I mean? If I had, you know, failed, you know, I failed to create results, you know, I will fail again in my life. And that's not true, okay? You know, keep the faith, right? Okay, let me share with you one really cool exercise. So reload your confidence and courage. So this is really powerful. Just stand up wherever you are. Take a deep breath through your nose and slowly let it out through your mouth and imagine that you are your favorite superhero. Good one. It can be anyone. It can be Superman or Spider-Man or Captain America or Hulk, whatever. And how do you feel? Put your shoulders back and smile and feel the energy. Now notice your feeling. Notice the feeling of being superhero. And the way you hold your body directly affects the way we feel. So change the way you hold your body, okay? And stand as you imagine there's a cord attached with your spine and connected Straight to the sky. So stand straight and shake your shoulder. Take a deep breath and amplify the feeling of courage, confidence, and enthusiasm. Fantastic. Okay, so how was the exercise? It was very easy. I mean, the way we hold our body directly affects the feeling in our, in our mind because our mind and body are connected with each other. Let me repeat so that you can understand very easily. Stand up, take a deep breath through your nose and slowly let it out through your mouth. Imagine that you are your favorite superhero, and just like in Superman or Captain America. And how do you feel? And amplify the feeling. Put your shoulders back, smile, and feel the energy. And notice the feeling. Notice the feeling. Now, the way you hold your body directly affects the way you feel. Always imagine there is a cord attached with your spine and is directly connected to the sky. And that's how you should walk and talk and sit. Now shake your shoulder, take a deep breath, and amplify the feeling of courage, confidence, and enthusiasm. Wonderful, super. Now there's another good exercise I would love to share with you now. So you must have doubt in your life, let's say any, any area of your life. And it's completely fine. And next exercise is called the visual squash. Visual squash means, and I will explain to you once I finish this exercise. Now pull and move out your left hand with palms open, okay? Extend your left arm and with your palms open, move all of your doubt into your left hand. Just imagine there's a doubt Resting on your left palm. Just see that and ask to your doubt resting your left hand to tell you its positive intentions of this doubt. Because every doubt is an unconscious response and it has some positive intentions behind it, maybe not realistic, but just talk to them. You should not ignore the communication with your mind. You can never say, oh, just forget it. No, you need to speak to your mind. You need to ask them what is the intention to stop you to do that and just argue with them. Maybe it has some logical reasons, but most of the time it just tries to protect you. But not always it's a very good— it's a very big danger. Just talk to it. It has the positive intention to save you. So ask it, what would happen if you do? And what is stopping you to move ahead in your life? So talk to it. So ask it, what is the good that you desire from this behavior of yours about the doubt? Now keep your hand, left hand, like that. Now pull out your Right hand too, with your palms open. Now take out all the feeling of courage, confidence, faith, love, ecstasy, and put it into your right hand on the right palm. See, look at, look at your right hand palm and notice everything: the courage, confidence, faith, love, and ecstasy. And give it a color and give it a shape. What shape would be? Is it round? Is it triangle? Is it pyramid? Is it square? Is it cube or rectangle? Is it diamond shape? Just give it a shape of that good feeling, the feeling of courage and enthusiasm, and ask those feelings to tell you the positive intentions of them. What's going to happen? If you don't have any doubt at all, when you are fully confident, when you're enthusiastic, when you are courageous, what's going to happen? And if it has something to say to you right now, what would it say? And hold it to your ear and listen to your own voice. What's going to happen if you are able to do what you're supposed to do fearlessly? Perfect. And now feel the good feeling in your body right now, and notice the feeling inside you growing, the feeling of confidence, courage, and enthusiasm growing in your body, running through every single nerve, and every single blood cell is full of confidence. And at the count of 3, double your intensity. 1, 2, and 3. 1, 2, 3. And now again, at the count of three, double your intensity again and smash your hand down onto your left hand. Do it with me: one, two, and three. And now smash your right hand onto your left-hand side. So mix it up and just leave it. Now think about your ability to get something done and to do what you want to do, and see how you're feeling about it right now. Just talk to that doubt again. What is it saying? I guess you're feeling really good because I've done this exercise with many people, and doubt is actually— it has a positive intention, no doubt about that. And there are some intentions which we cannot ignore, but if we just think about the positive intentions behind the feeling of confidence Enthusiasm and faith and ecstasy, you will find out that it's actually good to have confidence and courage rather than to be coward and be doubtful. So when you mix this kind of feeling like this, you're going to destroy your doubt very easily. So let's do it again if you haven't done it before. So just understand this. Pull and move off to your left hand. Okay, with your palms wide open, move all of your doubt into your left hand. What color or shape your doubt has, and ask your doubt resting on your left hand to tell you its positive intention of this doubt. Maybe you have the doubt about your product or service, maybe you have a doubt about your career, maybe you have the doubt about your job, and maybe you have the doubt about your relationship. You must have a positive intention. Just talk to it, have a communication. Set a communication with your unconscious mind. It has some intention behind it, but argue with it until you find the positive intention. Okay, and it's completely fine. Once you finish the conversation, relax and let ideas emerge, and just keep continuing. Then pull out your right hand with your arms open. Palms open and take out the feeling of courage, confidence, faith, love, ecstasy, and put it into your right hand. What color and shape, Devi? Ask those feelings to tell you the positive intention of them. If it had something to say to you right now, what would it say? Hold it to your ear and listen. What would happen if you have courage? What would happen if you're confident and Have faith. What would happen if you love what you want to do and see to it? Set a communication with it. Perfect. Now feel all the good feeling in your body right now and expand, amplify the feelings in you. Fantastic. And at the count of three, double your intensity. 1, 2, and 3. Wow! Now amplify the feeling even more. Perfect. And now at the count of 3, I want you to double the intensity and smash your right hand down onto your left hand, just like you clap. Okay, it should be a very hard clap. So at the count of 3. 1, 2, and 3. Double intensity and smash your right hand down into your left hand. And just release your hands. Now think about your ability to get something done and to do what you want to do and see how you're feeling about it right now. Perfect. So I hope you enjoyed the exercise. Now share with me your feedback on my email ID mayurbardolia@gmail.com or just call me personally. How do you feel? And, uh, you know, in the next slide, you know, I'm going to share with you some powerful questions which are going to help you out to eliminate doubt Very easily. We need to, you know, ask these questions, you know, consciously to ourselves. So the thing is, when you have a doubt, you know, make sure you write down this question somewhere so that when you have doubt, you can ask yourself this question. So the question is, what is stopping you? Okay, what is stopping you to move ahead in your life? We discussed this earlier on. So what is stopping you? No one is stopping you. Okay, so when you think about like a very negative future Oh, I don't think I can get a job. I don't think I can make really good money. Oh my God, I don't think I can do really good business. Oh, I think my relationship is going to collapse. But how do you know? I mean, these— this is only, you know, assumptions, you know. It cannot be true. It's only your imagination. How do you know that you're going to fail? And people tell you a lot of things like, you know, oh, I don't think, you know, you're capable enough. You know, we don't think, you know, You can do this job. We don't think you can do really good business. So you know who said that? Who said that? You know you cannot do anything in your life. So according to whom, you know you believe that you are not capable, right? And do you think the people's opinion really matter? I guess not. Not everyone is important in your life. When you might have another doubt about your success. Now. Do you always fail in your life? Come on, you know you need to take some actions and learn from the feedback. Experience is the best teacher. Okay, experience is the best teacher. Past experiences, learn from it and see how it's going. And that's how you succeed in your life. There's no one else, you know, you know, think that you know you're going to fail. And your past does not automatically equal to your future. So you don't always fail in your life, right? There must be some time in your life you might have failed. Let me tell you, that wasn't a failure. It was only a feedback. Okay? In fact, there is no such thing as failure. It's always a feedback. If you have a doubt about your future, just feel the fear and do it anyway. Because we don't learn from our imagination. We learn from our action. Just take action, pass through experience, learn from it. Make sure you don't, you know, do the same mistake again. Like, uh, if you make a mistake once, you know, it's a mistake. I can agree with that, right? But if you do the same mistake over and over again, it's your choice, okay? It's really simple. If you're making the same mistake again consciously, knowing the outcome, knowing the consequences of that action, still you are doing it, and that's actually a choice of failure, okay? So, you know, do you know what you're saying? And who said it's not going to work, yeah? Who said you're not going to succeed in your life? Who said you're not going to do any business, you know, good business in your life? In fact, you know, the do they of Indian really matter? I guess not. So friend, what is what when is a doubt a good thing? Okay, when is a doubt a good thing? So doubt is helpful when we doubt the negative things about us. Okay, can you doubt about your negative things? Okay, if you have the voice inside your head. It says that, oh, I don't think you can succeed. Just doubt on that, okay? Or maybe you have a doubt about your relationship and doubt the doubt. You know, I don't know, you know, if it's grammatically correct or not, but you should doubt your doubt. Doubt is good when we want to learn something new. In fact, we don't need to follow everything what people say. We should always question people to get the clarity. In those situations, doubt can be very helpful. If you don't doubt about your people's opinion, people's knowledge, then I don't think you can learn really easily. If you want to learn more, if you want to know more, you should always question people. You should always have a doubt in your mind that, you know, what, what, how do you know you are right? And that's how, you know, you can grow in your life. You know, I would call it curiosity. If you are not curious in your life, if you are not, you know, asking questions, you know, it's very difficult to grow in your life. So in those cases Doubts are good. It's very good when you have a doubt, right? So I think this is the end of this webinar, but let me just, you know, rewind because in the early part of this webinar, when a few people could not see what I covered earlier on. So there you go. This is how we started first and how to deal with your doubts and achieve what you want. Perfect. And then we moved on to Some instructions. Uh, yeah, so use chat box to send me a message and, and to ask or answer the questions. So, uh, some people have complained that the, uh, the chat box is disabled, so just, uh, reach to me via WhatsApp or just, or Facebook Messenger so that I can see your message and guide you along the way. So still got some time, I think 5-10 minutes left, so If you still have some questions, just send me a message on WhatsApp or Facebook Messenger so that I can, you know, answer you over this webinar. Fantastic. And hope you write down everything, you know, you went through. And then after, that's me. Yeah, my introduction. So why doubt is a destroyer? I shared one story about my friend who started his business. And just because of doubt, you know, from his partner about his product and idea and the market, he lost his business. So that's a destroyer. I mean, just because of doubt, people don't grow in their life and people limit themselves, you know. And so, so I also shared one story about my friend who suggested me to stretch myself. And we have all the abilities, we have the resources. We have the knowledge, but the thing is we don't try harder because we have the doubt. And just because of doubt, people lose a lot of opportunities. Let's say maybe a job opportunity or a business opportunity, and people lose time and money, energy, and enthusiasm. And I've seen many people when they started on a project, you know, they started with a lot of enthusiasm But as soon as the doubt creeps in, they lost all those, you know, ignition, enthusiasm, and energy. And people have lost so much of money, you know, they've invested in their business. And as soon as they focus on doubt, you know, they suddenly, you know, they try to make it real. I mean, let me share one more thing, like you get what you focus on, and whatever you focus Focus on, you know, it grows and it appears as it's real. So just let me know. You may have a doubt, and I mean, you might have a question that, you know, what am I talking about? Let's see, you know, if you, um, you know, I give you for 10 seconds that notice the blue things around you, you know, the things which are blue in color. So just have a look around and notice the things which are in blue and count the number of those things. Okay, just give you about 10 seconds and have a look. Perfect. So yeah, so you might have some answers in your mind, like you have about 10 things around you. Perfect. And, uh, yeah, so just without looking anywhere else, you know, just tell me how many things are red in color. You don't know that because you didn't pay attention to red things and you didn't pay attention to even green things around you. Because you focus on only blue color. So when you focus on doubt, you know, you, you know, you only see doubts and failures and impossible things, and that's why you don't succeed. And that's pretty simple. So when you have a doubt, you know, you lose opportunities because you are not focusing on opportunity, you're focusing on failures. And it reminds me a wonderful quote that the opportunity, you know, When the opportunity comes and it looks like work for many people, it looks like a tedious job for many people, and that's why they don't see the opportunity. They see the work, they see the tedious task, and they see the burden, and that's why they lose opportunity and money also. You know, the time— and time, time is very valuable. Time is money. In fact, it's more than money. You can actually earn money, but you cannot earn time. This is impossible. So you know that's why the doubt is destroyer of your life. It's a killer. Doubt is an unconscious response. It's only your feeling, and it's just like happiness, sadness, and frustration. It's an unconscious response. You have no conscious control over your emotion, and you have no conscious control over your doubt. But you know the doubt is actually good at some level because it helps us out to. Protect us from the possible danger. Okay, and, you know, like, you know, I shared one example. Our subconscious mind is always, you know, stopping us from going to danger, just like when we climb the stairs. At the back of our mind, our subconscious mind is reminding us to take the steps appropriately so that we don't fall down. So yeah, so doubt is actually good at some point, but most of the doubts are illogical and, uh, yeah, irrational. So there you go. Then we talk about, uh, in what areas of your life you think you have doubt. So, you know, you might have some answers in your mind, but when I ask these questions to, you know, to my clients, they told me that they have the doubt about their career and relationship. About your current job and application. If they're doing application for a job, okay, what if I don't get a job? And people have the doubt about their product or service or business idea. And people have the doubt about their future plans, right? Things may go wrong. Am I going in the right direction? People have doubts about their skills, like what if I, you know, don't have good communication skill or leadership skill? Yeah, okay. People have the doubt about their knowledge also. I don't think I can do it. Yeah. Oh my God! I don't know if I'll be able to do this correctly or not. Okay, that's cow. That's fine too. Yeah. So let's find out in what areas of your life you think you have doubt. Okay. It may not be covered in this list, but you know, you may have something in your mind. Now just you know fill in this blank. All right. I don't think I can, and I don't think I cannot. Perfect. So I don't think I can just do this appropriately. I don't think I can make money. I don't think I can do the job. I don't think I can really, you know, apply for this job. I don't think I can reach to more people. I don't think I can serve more people. I'm not too sure about making change in community. Okay, all those things. So fill in this blank. So I ask you this question. I ask this question, like, what is stopping you? In fact, nothing is stopping you as you move ahead in your life. No one is stopping you. Only you are stopping yourself. Okay, stretch yourself, you know, take some actions. Only you are holding your back. It is a chain. There's an invisible chain, you know, tied with you. But it's invisible. There's no chain, in fact. So move ahead and do it. And so the question really helps you out, and it helps you To freeze the problem in time and preventing it from affecting the future. Why do people think about the bad future? You know, you haven't seen the future, so how do you know, you know, it's going to happen in the future? This is really strange. Question number 2, what would happen if I did, right? So create the positive impression about the things you're going to do, right? What would happen if you just take action? What would happen if you just sell this product or service? What would happen if you connect with more people? Well, just, just see, you know, what's going to happen if you just take action. What would happen if you apply for a job? What would happen if you negotiate about your salary? What would happen if you convince your customer? Okay, what would happen if you just do something what you're supposed to do? What would happen? Good things only, right? So that's the question, right? It's a wonderful question. You should just write down right now. Okay, so the question is What would happen and what will you get in the next 12 months if you don't have a doubt at all? Yeah, if you're courageous, if you're fearless, what would happen and what will you get in the next 12 months? Perfecto, right? So maybe, you know, you might have the answers like, you know, I will be more productive if I don't have any doubt. I will make more money. I will enjoy relationship. I will achieve outcome. I will have more fun. I will have more courage. I will serve more people. Fantastic. So, so I'm just going really fast because I covered already for the people who could not join earlier on. So if you just joined right now, just don't see that, you know, Mayur is going really fast. It's because I already covered this before. Okay, so what is doubt? As we said earlier, it's an unconscious response. It's only a feeling. It's just like happiness, sadness, frustration, joy, and fear. So when we have doubt, we are feeling doubt. Doubt is similar to fear, okay? Fear means false expectations appearing real. Fear is not real. Now if you have the freedom— and people tell you, think about the, uh, the negative consequences about in the future, okay? So if you have the freedom to think about the negative consequences By all means, you have the freedom to think about the positive consequences too. Okay, so yeah, so why not think positive? Okay, why not think productive? Perfect. The next thing we discuss— okay, yeah, powerful questions. How certain you are about your uncertainty? Do you have the answer? If you have a doubt, how sure you are about your doubt? How do you know it's going to fail? How do you know you won't be able to do it? Okay, and whatever you are holding in your mind as a truth, what is absolutely true? Tell me now, what is ultimate truth? And I read one quote somewhere, don't believe everything you think, right? So don't believe everything you think. And then What do you want instead? Instead of doubt, okay, what is the opposite of doubt? So there's no doubt, there's certainty, there's courage, there's enthusiasm, there's belief, positive beliefs, faith, and confidence. So there must be some time in your life, you know, when you were certain, when you were enthusiastic and confident and courageous. Just list down 3 to 4 events when you had— you showed, demonstrated these qualities. Wow. Okay, so then we did this exercise. It's very powerful, very small but really effective. There you go. Stand up and take a deep breath through your nose and slowly let it out through your mouth. And imagine that you are a superhero. How do you feel? And put your shoulders back, smile, and feel the energy and notice your feeling. Perfect. Okay, then the way we hold our body directly affects the way we feel. And to change the way you hold your body in a certain way when you feel doubt, okay, stand as you imagine there's a cord attached with your spine and connected straight to the sky. So stand straight and sit straight and walk straight. Shake your shoulder, take a deep breath, and amplify the feeling of courage, confidence, and enthusiasm. And then we did a wonderful exercise called visual scores. Powerful. Pull out and move out your left hand with palms open and move all of your doubts into your left hand. What color and shape it is, and ask your doubt resting on your left hand to tell you its positive intentions of this doubt. And relax and let ideas emerge. Note which seems to be the most important. A good way to phrase the question, which is, you know, what's the good that you desire from this behavior of yours? Because every single doubt has certain intentions behind that. Okay, what's the intention of the doubt? Ask yourself. Okay, establish a communication with your subconscious mind and ask it, you know, why? What's the intention of this doubt? Why are you stopping me? I mean, what's the possible danger? Okay, ask about the certainty about this doubt. Okay, now how sure you are about this doubt? Ask yourself. How certain you are about this uncertainty? Okay, fantastic. Then pull out your right hand with palms open and check out all those feelings of courage, confidence, faith, love, and ecstasy, and put it everything on your right-hand side, on your right palm. Give it a color and shape and ask those feelings to tell you the positive intentions of them. If it has something to say to you right now, what would it say? Hold it up to your ear and listen. Perfect. And feel good feeling in your body right now. And at the count of 3, double your intensity. 1, 2, and 3. And amplify the feeling of confidence, enthusiasm, and faith. And at the count of 3, again double your intensity and smash your right hand down onto your left hand. And mix it up and just release it. And now think about your ability to do something needs to be done and to do what you wanted to do and see how you're feeling. Look at that doubt again and tell me, how do you think about that doubt now? So some powerful questions you should ask yourself: What is stopping you? Right? What is stopping you to do to take productive actions? And how do you know you're going to fail? How do you know you're not going to succeed? Right? And according to whom you are not able to do? Is there— is it someone's opinion? If it's someone's opinion, believe me, it's only an opinion. It's not a fact, okay? It is not a fact. I mean, and also another good question: do you always fail? No. I mean, if you failed in your past, it wasn't a failure. It was only a feedback, okay? It was only a feedback. So don't take it so personally, right? So if you've done the mistake It's fine. It's okay to make mistake. You know, if you don't make any mistake, you're not doing anything, right? So I mean, I I know I was. You know, one of my friends said to me that you know those who don't work, they don't make any mistake. But those who work, they make mistakes. It's really cool. Yeah. So but but but if you make the same mistake again, it is not a mistake. It's your choice. It is your decision to fail again, right? So do you always fail? No, not really. You always get feedback, you learn from it. And who said it's not going to work, right? Who said that? I mean, people create some assumptions. Oh, I will fail. I don't think I can get the job. Who said that? And if someone has said that, it's their opinion. It is not a fact. I tell you one more time. Yeah, so when doubt is a good thing— doubt is a good thing when you have the doubt of a negative thing about you. Let's say if you have a doubt, like, you know, you don't want to, you cannot succeed. Yeah, you cannot succeed. You know, that's your doubt. So ask yourself, you know, would you have any doubt that if I succeed, if I fail? About negative things, right? Do you have a doubt about, you know, if you don't get a job? Right? So just break the communication like that. And doubt is actually good, you know, where, where, you know, you just cannot accept everyone's suggestions, everyone's knowledge. When you hear something, when you learn something new, always ask questions, right? It's, uh, it's good to be, you know, lion and ask questions rather than, you know, being, uh, herd, you know, you know, just follow blindly others. So ask questions, like ask questions and always have doubt about someone's, you know, knowledge. And it's a good way to learn. And if you don't ask questions, you know, I don't think you can grow, right? So yeah, maybe you have some questions to me. Yeah, no problem. You can ask me some questions. If you want to schedule a free 30-minute consultation, email me on mayurbardolia.com— sorry, at gmail.com— or call me on 9737046050, right? So I'm waiting for your feedback. Yeah, if you want to share feedback with me, so email me on this mayurbardolia@gmail.com or call me on 9737046050. 46050. I wait for feedback. I'm always ready to teach you if you want. If you want to know more, feel free to contact me. I'm only one call away. So I thank you for joining today and, uh, wish you have wonderful life ahead. So stay awesome and, uh, you know, have courage, have confidence in your life, and be unstoppable. Thank you for joining. Namaste.
