In this episode of the Love Your Business Podcast, host Mayur Bardolia explores the pervasive habit of seeking approval on social media and the emotional toll it takes. He begins with relatable anecdotes—his daughter Anna’s aversion to being photographed and his own early experience posting articles and reacting to comments—to illustrate how fear of judgment can infiltrate everyday life. Bardolia traces the relatively recent rise of the internet and social platforms, noting that despite their novelty, the human desire for validation is ancient. He identifies the core problem: allowing others’ opinions (personified as "Robin") to dictate emotional states, which creates a dependency on praise and vulnerability to criticism. The solution he proposes is simple yet powerful: treat both positive and negative feedback with indifference. By consciously thanking someone for praise without internalizing the high, and eventually extending the same detachment to criticism, individuals can reclaim emotional autonomy. He offers a concrete exercise to practice this mindset shift. The episode concludes with a call to action, inviting listeners to reach out via email or phone for personalized, detailed advice on business, mindset, and related challenges, emphasizing his commitment to respond to every inquiry.
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Hi, this is Mayur Bardolia and you are listening to Love Your Business Podcast. This podcast isn't about magical tactics on running the business that makes you bored and tired. Instead, it's about how to love your business so that you can enjoy doing it and enjoy more time for yourself. When someone takes our picture, we become alert. We make sure we are looking all right, and we ask to take. More than one picture so that we have options to select from. We even look at the picture and see if we are looking good or not. My daughter Anna has been too shy to be photographed, and being a parent, we want to take her photo, but she never liked to be photographed. And the more I tried to push her to give a pose, the more she resisted. It frustrates me and makes me think why she hated to be photographed. And it's not just with my daughter only. Many people don't want to be under the spotlight. They're too afraid to be on stage in front of people. Even if people love to get them photographed, they want to know how many people like their photos and what people have to say about those photos. Social media is making people constantly worried about what would people say about what they post. When we try to do things differently, we secretly worry if people would like it or not. We are programmed to seek approval from people. We like it when people like what we say, post, or do. People nowadays are addicted to getting attention from others. And it's a new kind of hunger for getting liked. We would get really upset if someone did not like what we said or did. Such behavior eventually makes us even worse and depressed. Social media has made our lives more miserable. And people constantly think, what would people say if I do this? What will someone think if I fail? Will I disappoint someone if I become successful? Well, it's too weak behavior. It continues even if you are determined to stop thinking about others. So in this small episode, we are going to discuss how to stop giving importance to what people think. And once you learn how to do it, you will become confident and happy. You're going to know how to cut the invisible strings holding you to the opinions of others. Once you implement what you will know in this podcast, you will have more control over your life. You'll be happier. So let's find out. The internet has been around since 1990, but the traffic on the internet started rising in 2000. That means only 21 years ago. And social media platforms came in around 2003 or 2004-ish, and it became popular after 2006. And nobody had anything to post to hundreds of people before that. So the history of social media and the internet is not so old. But many people have become experts in telling you how to do this and to do that, all designed to impress others. It's all designed to make others like you. And it's designed to seek praise. Everybody asks you to jump around on social media platforms and even online. Oh, look at this, look at that. And before the era of the internet, people used to just mind their own business. But that doesn't mean that people were not seeking approval from others. They did. I remember that I've been in the same boat. Not only me, but I know many people who were far too afraid of people's opinions. And if you don't deal with this issue at an early stage, the older you grow, the more attached you become to the opinions of those around you. Like I said before, what would someone say if I do this? What will someone think if I fail? Will I disappoint someone if I become successful? These thoughts live in your brain without your awareness. No matter how much you try, it influences your every action. It's influencing your every move. They're controlling you and how much you achieve. So how do you snap out of it? How do you stop giving importance to what others think? I did not know, but then I found out a few years ago, and it's actually quite simple. Let's find out. I remember when I first started writing in 2009 or 10-ish. I would post articles and then sit back and read comments. Some made me feel good, some made me feel bad. Then I did a trick. It was only when I trained my mind to treat the good with indifference that I was free to not care about the bad and write how I wanted to write. I stopped giving too much importance to comments and I stopped paying attention to the number of likes on my posts and articles. The reason you give importance to what others or someone think is that, let's say someone is Robin. So when Robin says nice things about you, you feel good. When Robin says bad things about you, you feel bad. And if you give Robin permission to make you feel good, you are also giving Robin permission to make you feel bad. In other words, your emotional state is 100% contingent on Robin's opinion. See that? Puts you at the mercy of someone called Robin. That Robin is anyone. The key to not giving importance is to treat both positive comments and negative comments with indifference. Show no difference between praise and negativity. When you react to praise with no interest, you can also react to negativity With no interest too. But there is a problem. Most people are so hungry for praise, so hungry to be respected, so hungry to hear good things about themselves that it keeps them forever tied to the opinions of others. If you let someone make you feel good, you're also giving them permission to make you feel bad. The trick here is to treat praise with no interest or concern. And this is how you stop giving damn about what others think. And this is how you take back control over your life. And this is how you start living for yourself. So here's a quick exercise for you. The next time someone says nice things about you, Thank them and really mean it. Acknowledge it, but don't let it make you feel really good. Don't ride the high. React with indifference. Do this long enough and you will eventually start reacting to negativity with indifference too. Because you realize just how meaningless it is to live for others, and just how fun it is to live according to your own accord. That takes us to the end of the podcast. So let's find out what's happening in our world. Every small or big business has challenges, and there are not many resources where people can get the advice that works in the world. Some businesses are mostly run by single person or a team of less than 10 to 20 people, and they usually feel alone. And if you too are running a business and feeling alone, you are not alone. What if someone gives you an answer? To the pressing problems of your business, and not only just one or two lines, but in detail, and that too as often as you want. Will you take the advice from someone who will give you the exact answer that you're looking for? Who do you ask when you want answers to your questions related to business and life? You may want to know answers to business, marketing, sales, spirituality, mindset, and about how to implement the work. It may be about being better at communication, leadership, presentation, and overall well-being. Obviously, there are tons of websites, videos, articles, and information available on the internet. But many times the answers are vague and almost no one replies with the answers that satisfy your needs. Feel free to talk to me. I'm available to answer your questions and not just short answers, but detailed answers. You can ask as many questions as you want. Ask questions on any topic. From business, sales, marketing, spirituality, mindset, productivity, communication, and many more. And those who know me, they know I always love to talk to people and give them the information that gets them out of their struggle. So what are you struggling with? What answers you're looking for? Send me an email at contact. @northstarangel.com or mayurbardolia@gmail.com. I will reply to you just like I reply to everyone, whether you are already my client or not. Try this out. You may be surprised with the answers. And I'll be real with you. Ask me anything and I can help you deal with the challenges. From topics of business, sales, marketing, mindset, productivity, communication, etc. So if you're looking to get the advice that is right for you, drop me a reply and let me know. I give my trust to you, so I'm usually around to check the email and answer, and I will answer not in just one or two lines but in too much detail. And you can ask as many questions as you want and as often as you can. I have the best interest of yours in my heart. Sounds good? So send me a question on contact@northstarangel.com or mayurbardolia@gmail.com. And if I don't reply within 24 to 48 hours, Just email me back, or you can call me on plus one. That's my country code where I live in Canada. Six three nine nine nine eight one two three eight, and just leave a message or leave your number on email, and I'm time to talk. Find me on LinkedIn or Twitter. Just type my name and you will find me. So that takes us to the end. It's Mayur Bardolia. Thank you for listening. Bye for now. Still listening? Well, you're listening to the Love Your Business Podcast, and if you like what you heard in this podcast, you should share this with your friend. Ask your friend to subscribe to the Love Your Business Podcast. Share the link, northstarangel.com/subscribe. They probably love the Love Your Business podcast and they will thank you later. So send your questions, or if you want to talk to me, just send me an email at contact@northstarangel.com. I will answer, and yes, I read and reply to every single email. It's Mayur Bardolia. Thank you for listening. Bye for now.
