Mayur Bardolia reframes rejection as feedback, not failure. He compares it to a tough coach or red light that signals where to improve. Singers, athletes, and his own experience since 2010 show that repeated rejections led to better opportunities when he stopped seeking approval and focused on sharpening his craft.
My name is Mayur Bardolia from North Star Angel Coaching and Spiritual Solutions. Welcome to the video. Rejection feels awful at first. It hurts. It upsets you. It makes you feel useless. But here's the truth: rejection is not a dead end. It's more like a tough coach at gym. You don't like that coach. You don't like the heavy weights. You don't like being told one more round, one more round. But later on, weeks or months later, you notice you are stronger. You can lift more weight. You can run longer and handle life better. You become healthier and stronger. That's what rejection does too. It makes you stronger, even if you don't see it right away. Think about it in daily life. Let's say you asked someone out and they said no. You applied for a job and your resume ended up in the trash. And you never got a callback from that employer. You're a musician or an artist and you send your demonstration and the record label or any company says, not interested. You offer your service and the company politely says, we'll think about it. You try to get agreement from others, but they did not accept. And they didn't agree with you. Even smaller things such as a mother gets ignored by her kids. Parents say no to a teenager for a trip. Customers walk past your product as if it doesn't exist. Every one of these moments feel like a slamming shut, and most people take rejection. As failure, as if the no is forever, no is permanent. Then they give up forever and never bother to try again, as if it's a permanent rejection. But here's the key. It's not the end. Rejection is not a wall. It's a red traffic light. You are stopped for now. But lives change. Red light can turn green light, and when it does, you move forward. Now, let's flip the angle. Let's change the perspective. Who have you rejected? Think about it for a moment. Maybe a friend who wanted you to join. Maybe a job applicant who just wasn't the right fit. A salesperson who called at the wrong time trying to sell you something, a service you did not want to buy, someone who tried to convince you, but you did not agree. And why did you say no? It wasn't random. It wasn't cruel. It was simple. They did not feel right to you. They did not stand out enough. Sure, you might have given them some polite words, such as, not now, it's nice but not ready for it yet, maybe later. But the truth is, they did not win you over. It's like walking in a supermarket And you don't buy everything. You ignore 99 products in that shop, but the one that grabs your attention or grabs your eyes, that's what going in your basket. You're making that purchase. And here is the interesting part. If they had impressed you enough, if those people have impressed you enough, you would've made time. You would've made yourself available. Because nobody is too busy for someone or something who truly stands out. Which means rejection is not really about closing the door. It's a message. There is room to improve. You can do or make better. It's like a teacher marking your answers wrong. Not because you are hopeless, but because you can learn the right answer. Now flip that mirror around again. Change the perspective again. If others can win your attention by improving, doing better, or making something better, you can do the same when someone says no to you. And of course you can. A no is not set in stone. It's not forever. It's not permanent. It's just a pause. Think about singers who were once ridiculed. Some of them went home, practiced like crazy, and came back. And the same audience that laughed at them later on gave them a standing ovation. Or a sports person who gets cut from a team, removed from a team. By the coach. Many of them train harder, return the next season, and shine so bright the coach has no choice but to pick that person in the team. That's what rejection is. It's a signal to sharpen your skill, grow your confidence, and keep improving. And when you do, the people who once turned you down may one day regret it. But here is the funny twist. Once you have grown, you often don't want to chase them anymore. They start chasing you. It's like those friends in high school or people you like in high school. Back then, you were desperate for their attention. Years later, after you have built yourself up, They are the ones sending you messages. Running after people is tiring. Being wanted, being an interesting person, doing something interesting, being a remarkable person— that's fun. So don't waste energy trying to change people's minds. Don't beg, don't plead. Don't become so desperate. Use rejection to change yourself. Keep working on your craft. Keep polishing your skill. Improve your knowledge. Keep upgrading until you're so good the rejection does not scare you anymore. At that point, you don't even look for approval. You're not waiting for people to clap. You're already playing at a level where rejection fades away. This has happened to me again and again in the past. Every rejection pushed me into something better. Since 2010, I'm in this business, and if companies had not rejected me, I'd still be stuck somewhere. If certain people had not said no, I wouldn't have met people who truly fit me better. Looking back, I can see it clearly. Every rejection was actually a redirection. So the next time you hear a no, don't think it's the end of the story. It is not a full stop. It's a comma. It's just a pause in the sentence of your life. Keep moving. Rejection is not the wall we imagine it to be. It's a trampoline. Each time life says no, it's giving you a chance to bounce higher. And the higher you bounce, the less rejection matters at all. This is what I share in my coaching sessions with my clients when they face rejection or when they're afraid of rejection. When they give up because of rejection. And if you need any help, if you have any question, you can reach out to me. And I hope you like this video. Share your feedback with me. If you benefit from this video, please recommend it to someone who can benefit from it. Share it far and wide. This is Mayur Bardolia, a success coach from North Star Angel Coaching and Spiritual Solutions. If you wish to book a coaching session and workshop, or invite me as a speaker, reach out to me at contact@northstarangel.com. Thanks for watching this video. Have a nice day!
