Why we don’t enjoy our work and how can we work without feeling bored?

Hi, this is Mayur Bardolia and you are listening to Love Your Business Podcast. This podcast isn't about magical tactics on running the business that makes you bored and tired. Instead, it's about how to love your business so that you can enjoy doing it and enjoy more time for yourself. What makes people happy? Is it work or free time to have fun? You might have heard of an author called Mihai Csikszentmihalyi. He wrote a book called Flow. Now the spelling of the author's name is bit complex to share here. Just Google the book called The Flow. It was at the start of the positive psychology movement. He was looking at what makes us happy at different times of the day based on the behavior, and he used something called the Experience Sampling Method. Now, a pager was used to communicate before mobile phones were introduced. What he did was he had few people as participants carry a pager, and the pager would go off randomly throughout the day, something like 8 times a day. Now, when the pager went off, participants were to stop what they were doing and fill out a questionnaire. They have to answer 2 questions, and the answers were surprising. Number 1, what are you doing right now? And question number 2, what are you feeling? And what he found was that when people said They were working, they listed higher self-esteem. They felt more purposeful. And they felt more confident and more directed. But the replies from the other was even more surprising. When people were at leisure, they felt more depressed. And they had less of a sense of purpose. It's something that was not expected when another question was also added. They asked, "Do you wish you were doing something else right now?" And when this question was asked to people who were working, they said yes. And when people were at leisure, surprisingly, they said no. It's interesting that doing something that they listed something. Yes, I'm happier when I do this, and not as happy when I do this. It was different. It was really interesting experiment. They were so conditioned to view work as something. They want to avoid at all costs. Even earlier, they said that they wanted not to be doing the work anymore. But we all are doing the same. We all are conditioned just like that. There are some aspects of work, but I'm not saying you can just shift your mindset And whatever it is you are doing right now will suddenly become enjoyable. And there is a way to change the way you look at the work that you do. When I read this book Flow a few years ago, it started to change the way I approach work. I started looking for satisfaction And enjoyment in work, as opposed to trying to avoid it as much as possible. I realize that might be hard to visualize, asking you to think of work as being enjoyable. It might be the same as asking you to believe that pain could be enjoyable. So how can we change the way we look at work? We hate working, but we need to work. So what can we do? Let's find out. It's been said that we are naturally just like what we already are, but it's wrong. It's just happening on autopilot. That means it's just a habit, and habit can be changed, and it should be Change if it's not helping us. I want you to focus on another benefit of what you're going to learn today. We don't consciously choose to be lazy. We become lazy on autopilot mode. We really want to do the work, but we avoid doing work, and we repeatedly avoid the work. And guess what? What we do repeatedly over and over again, we create that habit. And we have created the habit of avoiding work. We avoid the work and keep avoiding the work without being aware of it. Now, what to do to deal with the problem? I want you to think about a couple of things. I will ask you to think over two questions and give answers to those questions. Number one, what does it cost you day to day regarding how you're feeling? I want you to take a moment and write down a list of things. Laziness is costing you. Maybe your laziness cost you self-respect, respect from others, and happiness. When we don't finish our work, it also affects our peace of mind and confidence. The pain of regret is more powerful. What are you going to think after five or ten years? You don't want to look back at today's time and say, "I wish I could have done that." We will lose self-respect. Our laziness costs us self-respect. We start hating ourselves when we realize that. We are just avoiding work. We feel good from the outside, but from the inside, we feel guilt. We see ourselves as a loser. We deserve to be respected, but we may not get respect from ourselves and others because we haven't achieved anything significant. Think about that. We are looking for prizes, rewards, recognition, and fame. All these things are not possible without the required work. Whether you do the work or don't do the work, there will always be consequences. The quality of the results or outcome depends on the quality of the work that you do. Now let's go to the second question. The second question is, what success is it keeping you from? I found when I was procrastinating a lot that I never really had any free time. My free time was spent worrying about all the things that I was not doing. When you don't work, You are stagnant. In many cases, you are going backwards. Every minute and every day, you get an opportunity to move forward. So what's the best way to have a balance between work and leisure? Let's find out, shall we? If you know any artist like painters, musicians, or chef, you will notice that they have a wonderful balance between work and fun. You will even find it difficult to differentiate between their work and leisure. Everyone is an artist, including me and you. We all are here to create great things, and great things are highly rewarded. We too find it rewarding after doing work with greater love and care. When we pour our heart and soul into creating things with our work, we feel happy, and that is the time when it's difficult to see the difference between our work and fun. The purpose of this podcast, Love Your Business, is the same. Where most business people run behind some shiny tactics and strategies that 5x or 10x their income, that doesn't work in the real world. The strategies of these new-age internet gurus keep us more involved in our work and drain our energy. We feel tired after work instead of feeling good after work. We don't think of the life we want to live, but instead we keep chasing the dream others are asking us to follow. And that's not how we should be working. In the introduction of every podcast episode, you will find a message that is: Love Your Business Podcast is not about magical tactics on running the business that makes you bored and tired. Instead, it's about how to love your business so that you can enjoy doing it and enjoy more time. For yourself. And the reason is quite obvious. Many business owners hate doing things they need to do. People lovingly start their business to live life with freedom, but they end up chasing their tails. And this podcast shares not only knowledge but also helps you develop skills of Running a business without stress and frustration. The core philosophy of our business is to do the work with love. We didn't lovingly start the business to have less freedom, but to have more freedom to do the things we love to do, so that we have more time for ourselves and our family. That's what we strictly follow, and you should do too. So find out what in your work can make you feel happy. We can't avoid doing the work, but we can find the reason to love what we do. What are the parts of your business that can help you gain self-respect, respect? From others and happiness. Find out what part of your work can give you peace of mind and confidence when you complete the things you started. Regret for wasting time will be painful than the pleasure of avoiding the work. So after 5 or 10 years, you don't want to look back at today's time and say, I wish I could have done that. So do something today with fun that your future self will thank you for. So that takes us to the end of the podcast. So let's find out what's happening in our world. Do you love your customers? Of course you do. Then you have to. Many consultants and teachers avoid talking to customers or people. They want to get far away from you when you need them the most. Even if you ask any question, they give the bare minimum answer and ask you to buy their courses or attend their seminar. They push their product down to your throats. Hey, buy this, buy this, and your problems will be solved. And you don't like them. I don't even like it because I felt cheated by many online and offline marketers and consultants and gurus. I was promised that I will get the answers in their course, But instead, they kept selling me more and I didn't get the simple answers to my complex problems. That's not what we do. Those who know me, they know I always love to talk to people and give them the information that gets them out of their struggle. So what are you struggling with? Send me an email at mayur@mayurbardolia.com and I will reply to you just like I reply to everyone, whether you are already my client or not. Try out. I will do my best to help you. I will be real with you. Ask me any question. Or challenges about anything. I can help you to deal with the challenges with marketing, mindset, meditation, spirituality. You maybe you want to talk about personal branding, any business problem, sales, and time management. So if you are struggling with anything in those categories Drop me a reply and let me know. If I think I can be of assistance, I will answer not in just one or two lines, but in too much detail. And you can ask as many questions as you want and as often as you can. And I will include your answer in one of the upcoming episodes of the podcast too. If I can't be of assistance, I will politely let you know I don't know. Or if I know someone better, I will direct you to someone who may be able to help you. Sounds good? So send me your questions at mayurbardolia.com. Start with one question. So take a minute or two to think. Then hit reply and let me know. I will reply to you in less than 12 to 16 hours, and sometimes in an hour. Keep listening to this podcast for the update. Contact me if you have any queries or challenges. I'm happy to help you. Find me on Facebook or LinkedIn. Just type my name and you will find me. Or send me an email at mayur@mayurbardolia.com. So that takes us to the end. It's Mayur Bardolia. Thank you for listening. Bye for now. Still listening? 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