Financial stress is the second leading cause of divorce. Mel Abraham says couples should talk about shared life goals, not just budget numbers, and act as teammates rather than roommates with money.
I heard this statistic. I don't know how true it is, but they said the second leading cause of divorce behind adultery is financial. That's crazy. Money's not meant to divide. Money is meant to coalesce, to create, to come together, to paint that masterpiece called life. And here's the reality. Why is that happening? Because we don't know how to bring them in. If you are in a committed relationship, and I know that one of you might be the lead in the finances, but you are not roommates, you are teammates. That means that you gotta have conversations. One of the first things I'll tell couples is that go have a conversation. Like I told my brother that, and he's a CPA, he knows his stuff, and he's been married like 35 years. He goes, you want me to go talk to Laura? Yeah, have the conversation about your life. What is it? Here's the mistake that most, most couples make is that they talk about the tactics. They talk about the math like we started. The math doesn't matter. So you're not building math with your partner, you're building life with your partner. Everything starts with a vision for your life.
