When you argue, stop trying to win. Instead, understand what your partner actually thinks. The shift from victory to understanding changes everything: they don't feel defeated, emotional safety stays intact, and you stay close even when you disagree.
The goal is understanding, not winning. So when the goal shifts from, I need to win this argument, to, I wanna understand my spouse, everything changes. An argument usually leaves the other person feeling defeated, which damages emotional safety and intimacy. Understanding, on the other hand, builds connection even when you still disagree.
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