Your spouse cannot be your savior. When you expect them to regulate your emotions, build your self-worth, or make you happy, you create impossible pressure that breeds resentment and codependency. Two incomplete people clinging to each other will never work as well as two whole people choosing to support one another.
Here's what happens when we make our spouse our savior. It's unrealistic pressure. Your spouse becomes responsible for your emotion regulation, self-worth, and happiness. One person can't possibly carry that load. When they have a bad day, pull away, or simply can't read your mind, you feel crushed. There's deep disappointment and resentment. Every time they fail to heal the old wound or fill the empty space, bitterness can grow. You may start keeping score, becoming critical or emotionally withdrawing. And then there can be codependency and loss of identity. Instead of 2 whole people becoming one, you have 2 half people desperately clinging to each other.
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