Mel Robbins argues that regret comes from not trying, not from failing. She rose from poverty in New Jersey to real estate success by taking small, repeated actions. The real waste is never starting.
I think to waste a life is such a shame. To have a dream about what you may have been, what you could be, what you didn't grab a hold of, and what you regret is such a waste of time. It's just the now. And just think about how many years you have left to be the new you. The new you might say, I could never do that. Well, you're mistaken. You can do it. If I, from New Jersey, a poor kid, could become the queen of real estate, that's perfect proof that You can really become anything you want to be. Anything. There's no barrier. Nobody's in control of you but you. That's all. That sounds hokey though when you say that, right?
I don't think it does. No?
Okay, good. Because I do feel that way, but it sounds like—
Why do you feel it sounds hokey?
Because I feel I've heard it all before. And it sounds like rah-rah. I'm not doing a rah-rah. I'm doing a reality check on what really is possible and what's not. And because I see it as real, It hurts me so much when people don't really accomplish it for themselves when they desire it.
Yes.
It just seems wrong. It just seems wrong that they should have a life that's fulfilling and have a life that's exactly the way they want it to be. And I really do believe people could just make their life what they want.
I do too. And I like, I don't think it's hokey at all. I think it's the most important thing you could say. And the reason why is you and I have done it. Yeah. So we have the right to say it, I guess. And we also know how it's a matter of stepping through something that you've erected in front of your ability to just start trying and to have the clarity to say, you know what, I'm tired of the way my life feels. I want it to be like this, and I'm gonna just wake up every day and do something to walk toward that until I freaking get there.
And you're right about doing something to walk toward it. Most people find it insurmountable, like, how could I ever get to be It's not that. It's the first baby step is everything that counts. And then the next baby step and the next baby step. It's believing a step at a time. It just never comes overnight.
You know, it never does. And what I also love that you said over and over is you can always go back to where you are. You could always go back. What's the worst that could happen? If you could do that, you can do it. Absolutely. The worst that could happen is that you never tried.
Yeah.
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