Mel Robbins says find three pieces in your closet that always make you feel good. She uses well-fitting jeans, a crisp white shirt, and a structured black blazer as examples. Choose pieces that match what you need right now, whether that's ease, empowerment, or strength.
Chapters
You need to know at least 3 pieces in your closet that you feel great about. Okay. Like for me, I need to have an excellent pair of jeans because whether— if I'm into feeling effortless, easy, and elegant, they need to fit well. They need to cinch my waist because I'm not into like, you know, showing those other bits right now. That's probably not going to change anytime soon. I love to have— and I'm, you know, I'm wearing these things today. I love a great white shirt, not because it has to be white, of it because like the crispness of it, the structure, like it makes me feel like a little bit strong but also a little bit elegant. And I like those dichotomies. I think, and then you hear a lot of talk about like the perfect black blazer and it's not because everybody needs a black blazer, it's because of what it does for you. Like a little structure, a little bit of protection. Black is a protective color. Again, I would, I don't, I'm not gonna tell each woman you need these 3 pieces in your closet. You need to go through this journey in your closet and, and pick out the things that make you feel great. And then like look at your life. Like, is it that you tend to need to feel easy, empowered, and elegant, or are you in a chapter of your life where you need to feel more supported, held, and strong? Maybe you're not in a chapter where you're wanting all eyes on you, but you just want to feel put together, and that's, that's okay. So what pieces are holding you together? Like, is that you need like some more cinched waist moments? Is, is it that maybe you're not in a pants chapter of your life, and that's okay? Certainly, you know, pregnancy is a time for that, but I would find the other pieces of armor that bring you back to yourself. And that's where the compassion piece comes in, because with our bodies changing and our lives changing, we're not meant to be the same people all the time. That's why it's important to get clear how each piece makes you feel.
