Mel Robbins says avoiding your problems makes you frustrated with other people and ties your emotional stability to their behavior. Confronting reality is hard but leads to better decisions.
Handle your shit. Don't avoid your problems. Don't blame other people. Handle it. If things aren't right, they're not right because you're allowing them to not be right. It's hard. I'm not saying it— and I come with humility— I'm not— it's a hard thing to deal— to do it, but it is on you to handle your stuff. Because when we don't, we get pissed at everybody around us. You should this and you should that and only you should do this. And it's a really hard way to live where your steadiness, your bravery, your confidence, your happiness, your whatever is tethered to the instability of other people and whether or not they're going to give you what you hope they will give you. Like, live in reality and live in truth. When you do that, you make better decisions.
Oprah Winfrey: How to Find Your Unique Purpose, Authentic Power, and Calling in Life
