Mel Robbins explains why people stay stuck: they haven't actually decided to change. Three mental blocks keep you there: clinging to the past, regret, and doubt you'll succeed. The way out is a single moment of clarity where you declare enough is enough and commit, even without a plan.
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One of the reasons why it's so easy to get stuck is you're simply not ready to change. And that can happen for a number of reasons. You might not be ready to change because you're holding on to the past. You might not be ready to change because you regret a lot of things and you're punishing yourself over it. You may not be ready to change because you don't think it's going to work. And so you feel a lot of discouragement right now. This is an easy one, by the way, to spot in the people that you care about. You can look at somebody who's struggling with their drinking, or you can look at somebody who's been laid off and they're not really looking for a job. That is a person who's stuck in trap number one. They're not ready to change. And the only way you get unstuck if you're in trap number one is you have to make a decision to change, period. You have to decide that where you are is no longer okay with you. You don't have to know what you're going to do next. You don't have to have some master plan. You don't have to get to work right away. But without making a decision that I am going to do something different here, nothing's going to change and you're going to stay stuck because nothing changes until you change. And you change the moment you decide it's time to change. You got to have that moment where you say, all right, that's it. I've had enough. I am so sick of my own self. I am so sick of complaining about this. I'm so sick of being stuck in the past. I'm so sick of carrying around this extra weight. I'm so sick of being lonely and sad and not seeing my friends. Enough. I am making a decision to change.
