In this short motivational clip, Mel Robbins recounts a recent high‑pressure production week in Boston where she was taping nine episodes in four days while feeling physically exhausted and unwell. She applies her own method of asking herself, “How do I want to feel?” and deliberately selects empowering emotions—invincible, unstoppable, confident—to meet the demands of the job. To embody these feelings, she puts on a pair of knee‑high boots she bought for a Golden Globe event, describing the experience as feeling like a superhero. After the intense work period, she returns home, asks herself again how she wants to feel, and chooses safety, protection, and softness. She then changes into old, cozy sweatpants and a flannel shirt, allowing herself to rest for three days. Robbins emphasizes that this intentional questioning and wardrobe shift can dramatically alter one’s internal state, likening the effect to a “Jedi” transformation.
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I'll give you a simple example. So last week we were in Boston and we were doing a big production week. We were taping 9 episodes in 4 days. Wow. And I also happened to get this kind of seasonal sinus thing. You can kind of hear it in my voice right now. I was dragging. I was so tired. I felt so ugly and puffy and yucky. And I knew your method and I said, all right, Mel, you feel like shit, but how do you want to feel?
How do you want to feel and how do you need to feel? Because like you're Mel Robbins, like you need to lead this team through 9 episodes in 4 days.
Yes.
How are you gonna be that person?
I can't afford to get sick right now.
Yeah, you're not gonna do it.
I'm not gonna do it. And so I said, I need to feel invincible.
Mm-hmm.
I need to feel unstoppable. Yeah. And I need to feel confident.
I love these words. That is like a fire trio. Correct.
That's very strong.
And so I could put on—
Fire horse energy. Yeah, I could put on my same uniform, like, but then I pulled out these boots that you had me wear for one of the events at the Golden Globe. And I always joke that they're the most expensive thing I've ever bought. So I'm trying to wear them as much as possible to get the per price per wear down. But when I pulled on the boots and I'm wearing them right now, they go up to the knee. They're crazy amazing. Gorgeous. I was like, all right, now. I am invincible in these boots. It's like Wonder Twins power activate. And I powered through those days, but it was the intentional nature of I have something I need to do. Now, when I got home Friday, that next morning I woke up and I felt horrible. And I said, how do I wanna feel today? And I said, safe. I wanna feel protected. And I just want to feel soft. Yeah, that's the shift. And I grabbed the coziest pair of sweatpants. They're hideous. They're old. They're amazing. And just this flannel, like kind of dad shirt. And I slept for 3 days straight. But laying on the couch in those clothes, I gave myself intentional permission to just ease in. And I know it sounds kind of weird, but I kid you not, when you go tomorrow morning and you use this and you pause and you say, how do I want to feel? Something crazy shifts inside you. It's like Jedi shit. Yes. It's wild how this works.
