Mel Robbins explains how what you wear shapes how you feel about yourself. Throwing on old exercise clothes breeds feelings of unworthiness, while choosing intentional outfits shifts your mood and confidence. Dressing like you matter changes how you show up.
I wanna unpack this piece, 'cause I think it's really important.
Yeah, it's exciting.
About dressing for yourself and how you wanna feel, and embodying in how you wanna feel the person you'd like to become and you'd like to project in the world today, and how clothing is a tool, just like a morning routine is, just like mindsets are a tool that you can use. I'm just thinking about the number of days that I get dressed in my exercise clothes.
Yeah.
And I'll even like— Do you like them?
Do they match?
No.
We got to work on this.
My exercise clothes are old and they don't match. That's not good. And I probably shouldn't go to the grocery store in them.
No, you shouldn't.
No, camel toe, like saggy butt. Like, I'm just saying, this is not— poor Christopher Robin's like the way— but what I'll say is that there's so many days that because I had not learned the art of intentional dressing, where I will sit in a pair of leggings all day at my desk and be on Zoom calls and just be doing my thing. And the days that I bother—
this is how—
and then you wonder why you don't feel worthy. The days that I bother to take a shower and pull myself together.
How do you feel?
Well, I feel different. Even without asking myself, how do I want to feel? This step of these 6 words is so transformational.
It makes it matter.
Yes. And then you feel like you matter.
And you're not letting other people decide for you. Yes. That's the part of telling your story. You could either enter a room and dress for how you want to be seen, or you decide who you are and why you matter. And then you decide for them. And that's the story you tell to the world. Oh, I love that. Yeah, it's, it's like—
Maybe this is why so many of us feel alone in the rooms we're walking into, because we haven't even dressed in a way that makes us feel truly how we want to feel.
You can't connect with somebody unless you feel like yourself. You're not going to. So, like, of course you feel alone.
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