Mel Robbins advises dressing to highlight your best features instead of hiding what you dislike. Emphasize your shoulders with structured suiting, play with proportion through exaggerated hemlines, and draw attention to what you love about your body rather than covering up.
So what do I highlight on my body if I don't like my stomach? Like, I have a very, very close friend whose name I will not say who constantly says, I hate the fact that I have no waist. I'm like a Twinkie on legs.
Yeah. I, you know what? I've worked with every kind of size and shape woman. I would say like, look at the—
If you have no waist.
There are women who don't have a waist. Yes. It's just the reality. So I would go back to like your strong points and where you can find the structure. Structure. I would go back to the shoulder. I would go back— like, a lot of women with no waist, they maybe don't feel comfortable in trousers and suits, but there's so many cool suiting options that, like, can— like, you play with the proportion that way. So you've had more of an exaggerated hem, and it just offers you, like, a lift. And, and same way, you wouldn't want— people get in the business, like, when they feel bad about their stomach or their butt, and they wear, like, you know, just sweaters that cover everything up. Yes. And that's not necessarily the point. The point is drawing attention and structuring what you feel good about. And if you don't feel good about this, how do you structure it visually?
Okay, that's a big takeaway. I wanna make sure you got that. Yeah. So while we've been hiding— Yeah, hiding's not the point. Our bodies, you could think about this completely differently, which is how do I draw attention to the parts of my body I actually like? How do I elongate my legs? How do I make my shoulders like a little taller and bigger? How do I add emphasis somewhere else?
Well, look, we're here to shine, right? So the point is not to hide, even if you feel bad about yourself. What can you find that you want to shine a light on? What still makes you feel safe, held whole, and like you have something to offer? You see people who feel bad about their bodies in layers and layers of clothes hiding everything. And I'm not saying the point is to show all your skin if that doesn't make you feel great, but you can sharpen things up so that what you're presenting to the world is more clear. It's, um, that's the tool, right?
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