The #1 sign you're being manipulated: they treat you differently than they treat other people. Watch how they act toward Uber drivers, baristas, and hostesses when they think no one's watching. That's who they really are.
Dr. Tenbrink, what's the number one sign you're being manipulated? If this person wants something from you, you know, maybe it's your time, your money, your influence. And if they seem to be a different person around you than everyone else, I think that's a big red flag that you're not seeing who they are. So, you know, early in romantic relationships, we'll hear about, you know, love bombing. And, you know, this person seemed like the perfect partner. They, you know, they were always texting me, they sent flowers, they want the same things that I want out of this relationship. All seems great, just the two of us. But like, look at how they treat the Uber driver, the barista, the like hostess at the restaurant, especially when they don't think you're looking. And if you start to see that like consistent kind of cruel treatment of people that are not you, I think that pattern is going to come for you eventually. Because the broader pattern is bad, it's a dark personality kind of pattern. Um, eventually you're not going to be the exception anymore. You're going to become part of the rule. And I think, yeah, seeing that kind of deviation when you are— you are the deviation, that I think is a is a problem.
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