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The Biggest Myth About Menopause | Mel Robbins #shorts

15 Aug 2026 · 2 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker emphasizes that menopause should be understood as a prolonged life stage rather than a single event. She argues that women will spend more time in menopause than in their reproductive years, making the term “post‑menopause” misleading because it suggests the transition is over. The speaker explains that the loss of estrogen impacts virtually every organ system—bones, brain, skin, hair—and that these effects begin in perimenopause and continue indefinitely. While hot flashes are commonly cited, they are only the most visible symptom and often signal deeper hormonal changes. The overall message is to reframe menopause as an ongoing phase with systemic consequences, encouraging women to recognize its breadth beyond occasional hot flashes.

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What I want women to understand is this, is that menopause is not an event. It is a life stage. You will spend more time in menopause than you did in your reproductive years. It is probably, if you're lucky enough and you don't get hit by a car, that will be the longest of your reproductive phases that you were in. That's why I don't like the term post-menopause, because when you say post-menopausal, and I get it why we say it that way, but— I don't want you to think of it that way. It's because that gives the impression that you're over menopause. Yes. And you're not. You're never over menopause. The effects of the lack of estrogen and hormones in your body will affect you from that point forward. Your bones, your brain, your skin, your hair, all of it. It is affecting all the major organ systems in our body. It affects— I think every woman understands how estrogen affects our brains. We go through it on a monthly basis. We go through it in perimenopause and pregnancy when we see these huge hormonal shifts. So we know it. We've just now been able to really verify it. When you take the estrogen away, and remember, it's serving a lot of different functions, that's why you get so many symptoms. After menopause, or even they start in perimenopause. So that's why I said I don't want people to go, oh, I'm over it. And you know what they mean when they say, I'm over menopause? They're usually— they're saying that their hot flashes went away. And menopause is so much more than a hot flash. I mean, that's the least of the things. But hot flashes are often harbingers of things to come.