Mel Robbins breaks down goal-setting into two parts: the will (your intrinsic why) and the way (small, repeatable actions that build a path forward). Research from Dr. Elliot Berkman shows that clear internal motivation paired with concrete steps is all you need to reach any goal.
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There's two requirements for any goal, any project, any change you wanna make. The two requirements are the will and the way. This research, it's gonna change the way you think about goals for the rest of your life. It comes outta the University of Oregon and it was conducted by professor and psychologist Dr. Elliot Berkman. And so the first component that we gotta have based on the research is what Dr. Berkman calls your will. That's why. I'm gonna call it, as your friend, you gotta have the why and the way. Why does this goal matter to me? When you get clear about why you want something, it taps into this thing that psychologists and researchers call intrinsic motivation. That is the truest, purest form of motivation because it is coming from an internal source that is personal to you. Now let's talk about the second component, and this is the way. You got the why and you got the way. And what does that mean? That just means how the heck are you gonna do this thing? Imagine that there is a beautiful brick path that is in front of you that leads you to the thing that you want to insert into your life. Every single brick just represents one action that you're gonna take, whether you take it once a day, whether you take it once a week, whether you do something once a month, because the way that you do anything, the way that you lay a path, is just brick by brick by brick.
