Mel Robbins explains emotional intelligence as a learnable skill, not something you're born with. When you suppress strong emotions, they accumulate like debt and come due as denial, shame, and control. Most people never learn how to process or communicate feelings.
Emotions pile up like a debt.
They pile up like a debt.
They do. Those strong, unpleasant ones. And if we don't know how to express them in ways that are healthy, what happens? The debt comes due. It's denial, it's suppression, it's repression, it's perfectionism, it's control, it's shame.
Most of us feel like emotions are something we have to endure or overcome or we're subject to or dictated by.
Yeah, that's the problem. The problem is that we didn't get an emotion education, and we need ways to process our emotions. We need skills to do that, and we need skills to be able to communicate them, and we need skills to be able to manage them effectively. That's the goal of this work, is that emotional intelligence is a real set of skills that can help you navigate all emotions and then apply that knowledge to achieve your goals in life.
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