This is a short YouTube talk (transcript) advising leaders to notice their inner critic, be curious about self-talk when they feel insecure or make mistakes, and seek perspective from trusted peers. The speaker recommends reframing mistakes with kindness, asking for feedback to test whether standards are realistic, and pairing self-compassion with accountability when needed.
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I think we have to start really close to home and help leaders realize like a. You need to be aware, you need to be curious about what is. When you make a mistake or when you feel insecure about something, what are you telling yourself? What is your inner critic saying to you? Right? And just be curious about that. And then to try to connect with other people and try to say, like, look, you know, I need to talk this through. Like, am I overblowing this? Are my standards? Like, you know, you have to have people you can talk to about your perfectionism and about your anxiety so that they can go like, oh, sweetheart, I've made that mistake a million times. You are doing awesome so you can get some perspective. And then you have to learn to talk to yourself differently and say, like, you know, I made a mistake. I'm a human. Mistakes are a part of life. I'm going to choose kindness, you know, and if there's accountability needed, I'm going to choose accountability, too, and move on.