Mo Massaquoi argues you should deliberately expose yourself to discomfort before crisis hits, building what he calls muscle memory for coping. He draws on football and his own battles with anxiety and depression to show why a strong support system matters, and why struggles often stay invisible.
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You want to have a decent base before you face adversity. Having the way that I grew up, the resiliency through football, like I almost built muscle memory so that if it was something that shocked the system, whether I knew it or not, I had a reference point that I could get through it. And so I'd encourage people to put themselves in uncomfortable situations before they need it because then they have a reference that I'll get through this. The other part is to give grace because there are times where you don't know if you're going to get through it. And so in my case, people see me now, but they don't see the anxiety attacks, they don't see the depression, they don't see the crying, they don't see the despair, they don't see all the things behind the scenes that you have to work through. And as you're working through them, they're not an isolated journey where it's just me going through it. You know, just having a rock solid support system where your wife is checking on you and making sure they're good. If she catches you crying in a night where you are unshaven and don't have a haircut and you got a friend that sends a barber to the house that says, clean yourself up.