Mick Hunt argues that blaming narcissists in relationships can stop you from seeing what actually went wrong. Instead of consuming content that demonizes your ex, he says, look at your own patterns and what you chose to ignore.
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What are some things we should be looking for in ourselves and others?
One of the critical pieces to understanding this really complicated It's a personality disorder. You mentioned the word self reflection and it's so unfortunate because the majority of the content that's out there is really being pushed by people who have been scorned or hurt by a narcissist. There's no doubt that narcissistic behaviors can be quite hurtful. But what happens is when the majority of the content is on sort of pointing the finger and look at how evil this person is and look what they've done done to me, it doesn't really allow for what you just mentioned a moment ago for that sort of self reflection to get a deeper understanding of what really did happen. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist and it's not going well, what's actually going wrong? Not everybody, I'm discovering, wants to just point the finger and blame the narcissist and then leave him or her. Because again, the majority of the content says if you recognize that you're in a relationship with the narcissist, get away from.
