John David Mann’s rule for giving criticism? Love first, suggestion second.

How can we begin to take criticism better? Because I think everyone at some point, like, struggles with taking criticism. First, I'm going to say that there are ways to give critique that certainly are more helpful than others. Start with that, which is that, you know, I have a rule about critique, which is love first, suggestion second. Always in that order, never in the opposite order. And I've noticed every great editor I've worked with does that. First, they tell you what they love about that. This is what we do with our kids. We say, that was great how you did that. I'm so proud of you. I'm so impressed with how you did your best to help your little sister. You know, then I might add, probably stepping on her head isn't the way to help her, you know, or whatever it is. That, you know, you want to suggest to correct. So those are the rules of give and go. But in terms of how to take advice or take suggestions, take criticism, I think it's develop the reflex of having faith in the outcome. That what this criticism is for, whether they mean it or not, is for you to find a better you, a better way of doing things, a better version of you, a Luke 2.8 instead of a 2.7. There's a better you just over the horizon, which this criticism is designed to help you find. It's not designed to cut you down,