Nick HutchisonFounder and CEO, BookThinkers

LOVING ourselves is one of best gifts WE can give other people!

12 Sept 2022 · 1 min

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In this solo YouTube monologue, Nick Hutchinson poses a provocative question—whether it is selfish to stop people‑pleasing and prioritize one’s own soul. He argues that it is not selfish at all; rather, loving ourselves is one of the greatest gifts we can give to others. Hutchinson explains that authentic connection arises from being true to ourselves, not from constantly fulfilling others’ expectations. He contrasts a “people pleaser,” who lives to meet external demands, with a “soul pleaser,” who aligns with their inner purpose. Citing Tracy Saccone’s book From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser, he outlines that the book presents a six‑step process for shedding people‑pleasing habits and becoming one’s authentic self. Hutchinson recommends the book, asserting that embracing self‑love is essential for showing up as our best selves for others, and that remaining a people pleaser is, in fact, the selfish choice.

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I have a controversial question for everybody, and here it is. Is it selfish to give up people pleasing? Is it selfish to put yourself first and nurture your own soul? Well, Book Thinkers family, if you go through this book right here, From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser by author Tracy Saccone, you'll find that the answer is absolutely not. In fact, loving ourselves is one of the best gifts that we can give to other people. How do we connect? We don't connect by doing what other people want us to do, right? We connect by being our authentic self, who we are meant to be. Our souls connect with each other, and you're not going to be a soul pleaser if you're a people pleaser. They contradict each other. A people pleaser is somebody who lives a life based on other people's expectations of who they're supposed to be. You're always just giving, giving, giving, giving, giving. But you're never really slowing things down and understanding who you're meant to be. Once you can step into that light, you can impact other people. How do you show up as your best self for other people? It's by being your best self for yourself, by loving yourself. And if you struggle with that, then I highly recommend checking out this book. Tracy Saccone outlines 6 steps to being who you are meant to be. And once you go through this book, you'll realize it's not selfish at all. In fact, it's selfish to be a people pleaser.