Nick HutchisonFounder and CEO, BookThinkers

Ryan shares what life was like after leaving Maroon 5.

28 Dec 2022 · 1 min

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In this personal monologue, Ryan reflects on his life after leaving Maroon 5, describing how he turned to alcohol as a coping mechanism for his grief. He outlines the stages he experienced: initial denial of his loss, followed by an "illusion of control" where he rationalized moderate drinking as acceptable. Over roughly a decade, his drinking worsened, leading to a period of decline. Eventually, he reached humility, which paved the way for acceptance—the final stage of grief and the beginning of his recovery from alcoholism. The narrative emphasizes the emotional journey from denial to sobriety.

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Drinking alcohol became a coping mechanism more than a way to facilitate fun. I look back on it now as a grieving process, stages of grief. You know, at first you're in denial. This horrible thing that happened or this thing that I lost, it didn't really happen. I'm happy. But then there was a turning point, maybe a year or two into that new reality where another form of escape or rationalization and denial took hold, which was, okay, that's in the past. I'm moving on with my life. All I need to do is just kind of moderate a little better, drink like a gentleman, And get over it, just get over it. And I refer in the book to that phase as the illusion of control. The bad gets worse and the good gets worse too, until the bad times are outweighing the good times. And that's what happened for me over the course of like really a decade from when I left the band to when I got sober, to getting to a place of humility, which was what was necessary to achieve ultimately acceptance, which is the end stage of both grief and the beginning stages of recovery from alcoholism.