You are responsible TO people, not FOR them!

I know for a long time I struggled with saying no, and I was very bad at saying no. And so in the book, you have a ton of great recommendations for people, especially around time. I mean, time is really tough. Let's say you want to stay in on a Friday night and read a book because you're starting a business and all of your friends say, no, come out for just a drink. And like, what are some of the recommendations that you have for gracefully saying no to people?

Well, I think, you know, again, you're responsible to people. You're not responsible for them. So if you say, you know, I'm, I'm really excited about this project I'm working on. I'm staying in to read, but let's hang out next week on Wednesday. That's your responsibility, is to be clear, to show them that you care. You are not responsible for them, whether or not they freak out and call you no fun and throw a temper tantrum. That's not your problem. As long as you're being a good friend, that's, that's all you can do.