Nick Perry argues that unconditional parental support doesn't mean rescuing kids from every problem. A secure safety net for real failures is different from bailing them out of minor inconveniences. Kids need to take risks and face consequences to build actual resilience.
This is what I'm going to tell my sons when they're older. If the relationship fails, come home. If the bills become too much, come home. If your mental health gets the best of you, come home. If you ever feel alone, come home. If you mess up, come home.
Stop raising your son to be a bitch. There's a difference between conditioning your sons to be weak and providing a foundation. If you're constantly bailing your kids out of every minor inconvenience, you're telling them it's okay to be a pussy. But letting them know they have a place to regroup and figure out their next move after a major problem is great parenting. The strongest people I know had families that supported them unconditionally, not families that threw them to the wolves. They took bigger risks because they knew they had something to fall back on.
