Nick Perry explains why some people go quiet when you start winning: your success reminds them of their own unfulfilled goals. Many shrink themselves to keep these friendships, but Perry says those people were never really rooting for you anyway. Keep the ones who genuinely want you to succeed.
People want you to do well, just not better than them. That's just how people work. Because the second you start growing, the ones who see your success as a mirror reflecting everything they haven't done, they pull away. They don't pick a fight, they just get quiet. And most people, when that starts, do the one thing that costs them everything. They make themselves smaller so things stay easy, because losing a friend scares them more than losing who they are. But the friends you're scared to lose were already gone, the ones who were never really rooting for you. So, let them go, and keep the ones who actually wanted you to win.
