To get what you want, you first experience its opposite. You spend less to invest more, face ignorance to learn, endure solitude to find love, accept weakness to gain strength. What feels like failure or pain is actually disguised growth, and feeling lost right now means you're transforming.
No one tells you this, but getting better feels like you're getting worse. I once heard someone say that if you really want something, you need to show your willingness to experience the opposite first. If you want to have more money, you need to, you know, invest it and can't spend much. If you want to learn something new, you need to experience how little you know first. If you want to find the love of your life, you need to be okay with being alone while not settling for anything less. If you want to be strong, you have to accept that you are weak first. If you want to heal, you need to suffer first. In order to have peace, you need to experience chaos. This means that life disguises growth as failure and progress as pain. So if you feel tired or uncertain or behind, you're in the middle of becoming who you want to be and just around the corner from success. And when you get there, you'll turn around and realize that you couldn't have found yourself without getting lost first.
