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Angela Kulcsar explains why adults shouldn't use logic to teach an upset child during a meltdown. When a child is escalated, they can't process explanations. Focus on emotional regulation and safety first, lessons later.
Angela Kulcsar explains why adults shouldn't use logic to teach an upset child during a meltdown. When a child is escalated, they can't process explanations. Focus on emotional regulation and safety first, lessons later.
One of the most common mistakes that I see adults do when helping a child de-escalate is that they try to teach, right? They're trying to like, be like, "Hey, this was a wrong decision and this is why," and kind of explaining using logic. At that moment when a child is super escalated, your only goal as the adult is supporting that child to regulate their emotions and to de-escalate safely. Now is not the time for instruction because the child is in crisis mode and they are not ready yet for for that instruction. I'm gonna go all into different myths with de-escalation and really how to de-escalate in a way that supports that relationships and maintains child integrity in my new webinar, Defiance and De-escalation, and I wanna see you there.
