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Angela Kulcsar explains why children say "I don't care" or "I hate you" during defiant moments. These aren't personal attacks but signs the child feels unsafe or overwhelmed. Caregivers who recognize this shift from punishment to support.
Angela Kulcsar explains why children say "I don't care" or "I hate you" during defiant moments. These aren't personal attacks but signs the child feels unsafe or overwhelmed. Caregivers who recognize this shift from punishment to support.
Let's talk about defiance. When you hear a child yell at you saying, "It's not fair! I don't care! You can't make me! I hate this! I hate you!" Your immediate reaction is negative, right? You probably maybe want to snap back, maybe you get upset, maybe you shut down. Instead, I want you to flip the script and I want you to think about what's really behind those defiant messages that those kids are saying. They are saying, "I need help. I'm struggling. I don't feel safe right now. I need more support." When we hear those messages, we can respond differently.
