Before You Send Your Addicted Loved One To Treatment, Watch This Video

Everyone's always talking about how the success rate of addiction treatment centers is so low. I mean, like below 20%, which is pretty dang low if you ask me, especially for how expensive they are. But the thing of it is, it's not that their programs don't work. It's not that they don't give good advice. It's not that they don't have the right kind of counselors and resources. The reason why these addiction treatment centers have such low success rates. And by success, I mean like long term recovery. The reason why the success rates are so low is because most addiction treatment centers don't spend time on the one most important factor for long term recovery. And that factor is motivation. Treatment centers don't do a great job of addressing someone's motivation to get sober, stay sober, maintain recovery. Because there's an assumption that if you're in addiction treatment, that you're motivated to be there and that you want to get better. And when you work in an addiction treatment center, there's also this attitude of what? Well, there's nothing you can do to help someone until they want it anyway. So if it's not working for them, they must not really want it, and they can come back when they're really ready to get sober. Now, there's a reason why people who work in addiction treatment centers believe that, and I'm going to get to that in just a second. But before we get to that, let's talk a little bit more about this missing piece. I feel like the key to getting someone into long term recovery is not all about just teaching them that they have a disease. It's not all about telling them what they need to do to stay sober and helping them stay motivated to make those changes, which I gotta tell you, is a pretty freaking hard job, because addiction impacts the motivation center of your brain. So you're trying to motivate someone whose literal motivation center isn't working properly. And that's why so many people give up. And that's why you hear so often from family members, treatment centers, counselors, people in recovery. They're always saying they gotta want it. There's nothing you can do until they want it. And they say that because that's what their experience has told them, is that, yeah, I'm trying to tell this person what to do, trying to get them help. I'm trying to get them access to resources, and it's just not working. So the natural conclusion would be to come to the fact that, well, I guess they just don't want it and I gotta admit there's a little truth in that. But the question is, is, does that mean that there's nothing that can be done? Does that mean that it's not part of the treatment process to get someone motivated? Because that is the missing piece. You take all these people, you put them in a treatment center no matter what the program is 12 step otherwise and you start telling them and showing them the steps they need to take to sober. But, but there's hardly any time spent on getting to know an individual and who they are and what's motivating them and maybe what's holding them back. And there's for sure not a lot of time helping the family member understand what's going on, which is vitally important when it comes to helping someone get long term recovery. Because the family can have a huge, I mean huge influence over helping someone get and stay motivated. So it's like by not accessing that family resource, you are missing like a found piece for helping people get and stay sober. Almost everybody just wants to sort of skip ahead to the getting better part and they just want to skip this whole piece because it's complicated and it's difficult and it takes a lot of time and energy to figure out. But when you put the time and energy into that motivational piece, the results are a lot, lot better. I just can't express strongly enough how important it is to take the time to figure out is someone motivated for change, what change is it that they think they need to make? Maybe they are motivated for change, maybe they do think they need gets over, but they're not motivated to take these other steps that are necessary in the process. And when we don't figure all those little pieces out, it doesn't, the plan just doesn't come together. Feeling like hopeless and disenchanted with the whole process. Especially if you've already spent a lot of time and money on these treatment programs and treatment centers. So families, please, please hear me when I say this. If you are trying to get your addicted loved one to go to treatment, make sure the person's at a place at least where they know they need to make some changes. I promise you, if you will take the time to sort of till the ground and make it very fertile and put all the right stuff there, then when you put the seed in, it will take. But if you just throw the seed down onto the dirt and think that it's going to grow into this like massive recovery wonderland, it's just not going to. You got to get the foundation, right? It is a thousand percent worth it to take the time to figure these things out. It's almost like what I would call pre treatment. Now, if you have a loved one and you are trying to figure out what are they ready for change, what motivates them for change, what are their strengths? There is a process and system for doing that and I will put a link in the description below in case you want to learn more about that process. In the meantime, there are a lot of things that you as the family member can be doing to help this process along. So I want you to watch this playlist next. It's all about how to get someone out of denial and actually ready to make those changes. This is going to teach you how to put those foundational pieces in place. And if you want me to take a look at your loved one and figure out where they're at in their stages to change, how motivated they are, what their strengths are, what needs they have, what their roadblocks are, then check out that link in the description. It'll tell you all about that process.