Stop Trying to Make Them Admit the Truth #addictionrecovery #addictionawareness

Evidence is extremely useful for helping you decide what is true. It is much less useful when you're trying to force another person to admit what is true. It's like 2 different jobs here, right? You can use evidence to make your decisions without using evidence to demand somebody else's confession. You see, that's where we get into problems with this. That's accountability without control. So instead of, I know you drank, stop lying to me about it, I found the bottle, you can say, I can see that you don't agree with my conclusion. I'm not going to argue about it. I'm going to make my decisions based on what I'm observing. You see the difference there? The first one says, I need you to agree with me before I can move forward. The second one says, you're allowed to think whatever you want. I'm still allowed to respond to the reality that I see. That change, that little difference there, it takes you out of the courtroom.