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Boundaries Set, Boundaries Kept

3 Jun 2024 · 0 min

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Short excerpt from a June 3, 2024 YouTube video by Amber Hollingsworth arguing that individuals are solely responsible for maintaining and enforcing their personal boundaries. Core claim: if boundaries are crossed, responsibility lies with the boundary-owner for failing to hold them, not with others. Tone is didactic and ownership-focused.

When you set a boundary, you need to be fully prepared for how you're going to hold the boundary. You're responsible for your boundaries. If your boundaries are getting broken, it's not because they're breaking them, it's because you're breaking them. It's your fence. You're responsible for your fence. So you can't come and say, they're not respecting my boundaries. They're not following my boundaries, they're breaking my boundaries. These are words that we use. But I need you to understand that only you can break your boundaries.