Amber Hollingsworth shows how saying "I was wrong" to someone struggling with addiction can lower their defenses. The admission models humility, signals safety, and usually makes them more willing to open up in return, rebuilding trust and your ability to help.
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You can instantly win the trust of someone who has an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or anything else by using this one statement. This seriously works every single time. Are you ready for it? Drum roll, please. The statement is, I was wrong. That's right. When you tell someone who has an addiction that you were wrong, guess what happens. Their walls go down. They retract the spikes, Their ears perk up, and. And now you've actually got their attention. Now they want to hear what you're about to say. You want to know why this is so powerful? It's so powerful because the person is actually expecting some kind of push, punch, stab. Not like literally physically punch, stab, but like verbally. They're expecting you to come at them to be negative, to criticize them, to call them out on something, to lecture, nag, preach. And if you don't do any of that, but instead, you show your own vulnerabilities and weaknesses and, and act with humility. Not only are they going to pay attention to you and listen to you, but they're going to trust you so much more. And best of all, you're modeling. Humility, I said, greatly increases the chances that they're going to eventually get humble and vulnerable with you. I'm serious. Humility triggers humility in another person. Think about the last time you were in a big argument with someone, and finally, either they or you can caved first and said, you know what? I'm really sorry, I shouldn't have said that, I shouldn't have done that, or I was wrong. Almost always, literally, probably 99% of the time, once one person says that, what does the other person say? Well, I shouldn't have done this, or I shouldn't have said it that way, or I shouldn't have made such a big deal about it, Right? When you can say and you're wrong, it allows the other person to say that they're wrong. When you push and you try to prove your point and you just keep coming at it, guess what? They gonna keep fighting. Cause you're fighting with them and they're gonna fight with you back. So put your own walls down, retract your spikes, and watch what happens. Now, the good news is you can say you're wrong about pretty much anything you want to. You can say you were wrong about something that has to do with them. You can say you were wrong about how you responded to something. You could say you're wrong about something that has totally nothing to do with them. It has something to do with anything else. The point here is, is that you're being humble with them. Essentially, you're communicating that, you know, you're not perfect either. But on a deeper level, what you're really commun Vitally important to get someone to trust you and open up to you, especially someone that has an addiction, is you're communicating that you are a safe person. Now, of course, there are other things you can say or do to help win the trust of someone who has an addiction. And why is that so important? Because the more trust you have, the more influence you can have over the situation. Trust goes up. Influence goes up. If you want to know what those other things are, then you're going to want to watch these videos, because these videos are going to give you, like, a lot of really good tactics to rebuild a bridge between you and your loved one. They're right up here. All you got to do is click it.
