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Not lying DOESN'T equal honesty! 😲

15 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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A short YouTube talk by Amber Hollingsworth explaining that "not lying" is not the same as honesty. She argues that withholding important information (omission) and secret-keeping — including infidelity — are forms of dishonesty that damage relationships because they deceive partners even when no explicit falsehoods are told.

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So the next relationship destroying behavior is dishonesty. And that dishonesty includes things like infidelity and things like secret keeping. And a lot of times people will, this is dishonesty thing, I didn't tell you a lie. But they omit very important parts of truth. When you have a piece of information that your partner does not have and you know that they want to have it and that maybe they need to have it, and you are purposefully not communicating it, that's dishonesty. That's deception. That counts in this category. Because a lot of people say, I didn't tell any lies, but you didn't tell the whole story either.