Stop Looking for What’s Wrong. Start Noticing How Far They’ve Come. #addictionrecovery #sobercurious

If you're the family member, you can help by pointing that out to them in a good way instead of trying to look for how it's not different and how they don't mean it and how they're lying this time, which I know is an instinct and it's a valid way to feel about it. There's a reason why you feel that way about it, but what you want to do is you want to see those things that are different. Notice those thinking shifts that the person has. Validate their positive reasons for change because You're helping to grow that seed in them. Not only did they have the hardship, but you're helping it blossom. Instead of looking for why it's not going to work and how it's not different, look at your loved one for how it is going to work and how it is different and how they have learned lessons and how they have come a long way and how you're really proud of them for picking themselves back up and trying it again, even though it's been a long, hard journey with a lot of ups and downs. Look for what is different yourself as the family member.