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This Destroys Relationships⚠️

26 May 2023 · 0 min

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Short excerpt from a YouTube video (creator: Amber Hollingsworth) in which Amber and another speaker discuss betrayal trauma in romantic relationships. They highlight that rationalizing actions that would hurt a partner is a warning sign, recommend pausing to examine motives, and encourage addressing underlying relational needs rather than hiding or justifying harmful behavior.

And I would say as far as couples go, betrayal trauma goes. Any time that I find myself rationalizing something that I know would hurt my partner, that deserves a step back and a long stare.
Oh yeah, warning sign.
Yeah, big.
Red clue. Like I say, if I'm doing something that I know I can't tell you.
And if I have justifications in my head or not. Right. I'm probably going down this path because you're right. That's how it works like justification and rationalization. It'll take the imperfection of my partner and it'll give me lots of good reasons why it's okay that I'm doing this thing if I'm not careful with myself and we want to catch that early if we can and instead address the thing that's hurting in the relationship Instead of finding these alternative ways, you know, to keep secrets and to act out and things like let's, let's get to the heart of what that relational issue or need or concern is or.