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Unspoken Understanding

26 Sept 2023 · 1 min

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Short advice segment in which Amber Hollingsworth addresses what to do when a loved one drinks in front of you. Central recommendation: do not confront or call out the person; instead, remove yourself or avoid situations where drinking leads to negative behavior, and set boundaries indirectly without explicit confrontation.

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When your loved one drinks in front of you, what do I do or say? Nothing. You don't. If when they drink and they drink in front of you, they get nasty and they get mean and something bad happens and you don't want to be in that situation, don't be in that situation. But you don't even have to tell them. That's why you're not in that situation. Because even saying, I'm going to leave now because you got that drink, that's still calling it out. So no trying to wiggle around the rule here. And if they say, hey, do you want to go out to eat? But you know, every time you go out to eat, they order all these drinks and they get really nasty, obnoxious, you can say, nah, I think I'm just going to have a sandwich at home. So it's not about you have to put up with everything or you have to be ran over, but it is about the fact that you don't have to call it out and say, why? They know why.