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Why you should avoid codependency

20 Dec 2023 · 0 min

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A short YouTube talk by Amber Hollingsworth explaining why codependency (overly self-sacrificing for others) is harmful. The speaker argues that self-sacrifice builds large resentments which are later expressed either as sudden angry outbursts or as chronic passive-aggressive comments (described as ‘smirky remarks’).

When you overly self sacrifice for other people, you end up building big old giant resentments. And that's the problem for a number of reasons. But one of the biggest reasons is because you're going to act out on that resentment. You're going to either take it so long that you just blow your top one day and say a bunch of mean, nasty, hateful, terrible things, or you're going to sort of let it out in these little passive aggressive jabs. Every chance you get these little comments that are like, I call them smirky remarks, it's going to come out.