Railey Molinario walks through repairing trust after infidelity or lying. Start with a hard conversation about why the lie happened and what each person actually values. She rebuilt trust in her own marriage from scratch, treating it as a foundation that may never have been solid to begin with.
When we're in a relationship and we break that trust, let's say that there was some infidelity or our partner lied to us, that trust can be rebuilt, but we first have to start with a conversation. And that conversation is, why did you lie in the first place? Why did this happen in the first place? We have to get down to the value and really understand the value system of both people in the relationship. In my relationship, trust is essential. It is a value that my husband and I have. It's not just something that we say because that's what we're supposed to say, that's what we're supposed to put forward. We're putting forward trust, but in actuality, we're keeping secrets and we're lying and we're not telling the full truth. That's not what's happening here. So in your relationship, if trust has been broken, it's essential to rebuild it from scratch or really build it for the first time because obviously it didn't exist before.
