Railey Molinario argues that love alone cannot sustain a partnership. You also need what she calls relationship intelligence: the ability to resolve conflict, communicate effectively, and compromise. A thriving relationship feels safe, secure, exciting, and deeply connected.
The key to a thriving relationship is love plus relationship intelligence. That's it. It's not rocket science. It's not a mystery. It's not as overly complicated as we experience it to be. A thriving relationship is 2 people who are deeply in love, who successfully navigate their relationship, and with that relationship, they create a life that they love. A thriving relationship feels safe. It feels secure. It feels exciting. It feels beautiful. It feels connected. What a lot of people have is love, and that's wonderful. I love love, but love is never enough. It has never been. Enough, and it never will be enough glue to keep a relationship together. What you need on top of that love is relationship intelligence. Do we have the ability to resolve conflict without it blowing up or without it having to be the same conversation over and over again? Are we able to communicate and compromise?
