Ramit Sethi coaches a couple earning $185K who fight constantly about money despite their income. Their arguments cycle back days later while their kids watch and learn the pattern. They're in credit card debt and bicker over small purchases, so Sethi pushes them to build a shared decision framework and say no together.
The only way you talk about money is a fight, and then you bury the fight only to reoccur 3 days later and on and on. And here we are, 16 years later, 4 children obviously watching this and learning from the way you behave around money as well.
Yeah.
Ouch. Right now, as a couple that makes $185,000, it is not acceptable for us to be in credit card debt. But none of that is happening. And so what you find yourselves doing is fighting over the price of Target. It's so irrelevant. What are you noticing as I'm saying this to you?
That we really just need to hone in and cut out all the noise and focus together as a team.
I can't point fingers of, well, you know, stop doing this. Should we go to dinner or should we not? Should we go to the concert? Should we not? We would already know the answer, yes or no.
Would you be comfortable if the answer to those questions was a no?
Oh, obviously that would be new for us.
But I think it's necessary.
Yeah.
