Dr. Ray Catania argues that freedom comes from stopping reactive emotions like anger. Instead of being the actor in your life, step back and direct yourself like you're watching a movie: rehearse the response you want, then act from that higher awareness rather than ego.
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So the point is, is we want to lose being reactive. We don't want to get angry. We don't want to experience those emotions anymore. So you're not your ego. You are your awareness, and you haven't even met yourself yet because your awareness is connected to this network, this entity of limitless information, limitless things that you can accomplish, acquire, manifest. It's the most beautiful place. And yet we go to our subconscious where all the trash is and we pull that stuff out to make decisions with. It took years, but every time that I would feel a certain way that I didn't want to feel, or I acted a certain way I didn't want to act, I would take myself out of the situation, put myself in a third party like I was a director of my own movie starring me, and tell myself what I wanted myself to do. Direct. Now, action. What would you have done had you done this correctly? Play it over again. What would you have said if you said it correctly? Change it. And when you understand it and you don't let your ego direct your world and you get your direction from a higher place and a higher source, you're living a different life.