Dr. Ray Catania explains how two people can experience the same event but form completely different beliefs about it. Two kids encounter a stove: one burns his hand and develops a lasting fear, the other doesn't and stays indifferent. Our subconscious beliefs drive behavior more than the actual event does.
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2 people can experience the exact same thing and come away with completely different ideas about what just transpired.
Like childhood, for example. Siblings don't grow up with the same parents because of perception.
Exactly. I often use the example of 2 children. They live in 2 different houses right next door. They're both about 5, 6 years old. One kid goes into the kitchen and puts his hand on the stove and he burns his hand because his mom's been cooking. And the other kid next door hears all this, so he goes into the kitchen, he touches his stove, but his mom wasn't I'm cooking and he has no burn. He's like, I don't know what you're talking about. The other kid is forever going to be frightened of stoves. He's never going to be a chef anytime unless he consciously, yeah, rewires his subconscious.
Yeah, yeah.
Someone has to teach him that, or he has to teach that himself.
And those are the things we're aware of, right? It's all the stuff we're not aware of that's really in charge of us, right?