Ray Catania argues you choose your emotional response, not your circumstances. He contrasts ego-driven reactions with awareness-driven feelings, and reframes "I have to" into "I get to" to reclaim agency over how you feel.
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You are allowed to react any way you want to any situation you want. People might think you're crazy, but who cares? You can be free, and you can be happy, and you can have the feelings that you want to have. You can have those feelings from your awareness that's connected to your higher self. Let them drive you. If we let them drove us, we wouldn't have anger, we wouldn't have sadness. It wouldn't be there anymore. But we don't. We let the ego shoot out in front of us. So decide what's good in bed and then change your speech patterns. Okay. I have to drive my kids to school. No, you get to drive your kids to school. You get to drive them. Have to go to work. No, you get to go to work. You get to work. Everybody says very similar things.