Richard R. Ramos, Melissa, and Sam discuss why asking for parenting help matters. A clinician recalls a family accusing her of being a perfect parent despite their three children's behavioral issues, a moment that shocked her and revealed how much pressure parents feel to hide their struggles.
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I'm just telling you, don't be afraid to try some outside help. I think it would really be beneficial. And then that line of thought, I'm going to start with you, Melissa. You have a story that you'd like to share before we end our conversation, and then I'm going to ask you the same of you, Sam, if you have a story.
So I think to piggyback just on what you were just saying, Richard, is You know, I remember sitting— it was in my first job out of training, and I was sitting in an office setting. Um, I worked at— for like a hospital-based outpatient clinic, and I'm sitting in this office with a family, and they had 3 kids, and the kids are not behaving. And they looked at me and they said to me, you know, you must not have any issues with your kids. You're, you're probably the perfect parent. And my jaw almost hit my desk, which I will tell you, like, I usually don't respond like that in a clinical setting. And I went, um, no, there's all the training in the world.