Richard R RamosRichard R. Ramos. Founder of Parents on a Mission,Youth on a Mission, and Latino Coalition for Community Leadership

Why Kids Resent Parents Who Don’t Discipline The Truth About Love and Respect

19 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Richard R. Ramos cites a psychologist who explains that runaway youth often resent their parents because those parents fail to assert authority, depriving the youth of the protective guidance they innately crave. He argues that children develop love and respect for parents who provide disciplined, corrective, and character‑shaping guidance, even if it feels uncomfortable at the moment. Ramos defines the "authoritative" parenting style as a balanced approach that combines firm discipline with encouragement, love, and positive reinforcement. He then connects this concept to his Home Field Advantage program, emphasizing that teaching parents how to earn respect for their authority should begin early in a child’s development.

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a quote that I use from a psychologist that, um, said, you know, runaway youth, they, they end up hating their parents because they have an innate, uh, desire for their parents to save them from themselves. Yes. Because their parents don't take authority, that they end up resenting their, their mom and dad, and they end up— they have love for the ones that showed the discipline you know, and the correction and the shaping of character, even though at the time we don't like it. But those kids end up having respect and love for those kinds of parents. And that's what we're talking about, the authoritative type of parent, which is a balance between shaping character, you know, if there needs discipline, we'll do that. But we also have words of encouragement. We also have love and, you know, all of those kinds of things. And the other thing that you mentioned earlier that we teach, you know, we answer this question, how do I earn respect for my authority? I mean, that's one of the main things. And as you know, in Home Field Advantage, we teach them to start early.