Short conversational piece (YouTube) where speakers present a simple three-question heuristic to manage worry/stress: (1) Do you have control over the outcome? (2) Is it worth your energy? (3) Based on those, should you take it on, delegate it, or let it go. Speakers report that 85–90% of worries are let go by applying this filter and emphasize starting with simple behavior changes (e.g., improving sleep) rather than complex programs.
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Here's a practical tip for you. This is what I say for people. When you're worrying about a lot, ask yourself three things. Number one, do you have any control over the outcome? Number two, is it worth your energy to deal with it? And number three, based on those responses, should you take it on? Should you delegate it to someone else, or should you let it go? When I ask myself this, I find that 85 to 90% of it gets let go because I have no control over the outcome or it's simply not worth my energy to do it. And ironically, if your answer is yes to both of those, you will find a solution really easily because you have control over the outcome. If you don't, what's the point?
The larger group, for everybody, you know, listening, Dr. Pingle's highlighting what we talk about, the lowering, you know, if you will, the chatter is paramount to having any kind of habitual or ritual that you can change. You know, because if I just tell everybody to do my entire program, of course that's not going to build or foster community or compliance or anything like that. Now, if they've listened to this conversation we've had and understand what we're talking about, that's why I never start with anything complicated other than try to think of it this way. If we can get you sleeping better, that that's an opportunity for you to feel better. That's just. That's a simple behavior mod, you know, that's. That's the way to start.
