You’re not drawn to the #narcissist because you’re weak — it's because they feel familiar.

Why are you so drawn to the narcissist? You see, you're not attracted to the narcissist because you love pain. You're attracted to them because pain feels like home. You learned to confuse chaos with connection and survival with love. You see, the narcissist mirrors the person who first made you feel unseen. The inconsistency, the manipulation, the hot and cold, it all triggers something familiar. And oftentimes, because your inner child believes love has to be earned, you chase the very thing that keeps you empty. You call it passion, but it's really your trauma begging to be resolved. You see, the pull you feel, it isn't love. It's old wounds trying to find closure. When you start healing, that chaos you used to crave becomes uncomfortable. You stop mistaking attention for affection and drama for depth. What you do is you start noticing the difference between someone who wants you you and someone who uses you. Real love won't leave you anxious, guessing, or begging for scraps. It will feel calm, consistent, and safe. That's how you know you're healed— when peace feels like home. And if you're ready to stop mistaking pain for love, reach out to me with a DM, heal, or comment, discover. I'd love to help you heal.