Embracing the Unknown: Cultivating Trust in Your Intuition for a Life That's Lit!

But once you have that level of trust, that deep trust within your soul that you'll figure it out, you can do this. That blank canvas, that blank sheet of paper, that blank screen becomes your playground. It becomes a thing of beauty, becomes a thing of joy. Because you see in your mind all of the things that you could create here. The places that you could go, the lines that you can make, the colors that you could use. And that's a beautiful thing. You're listening to the Circle CE Project. Welcome to the Triple CE Project, the podcast that helps you gain clarity, boost confidence, build courage, so you can live lifeless. I'm your host, Ryan Spence, the big lore dropout, life coach, author, speaker, lover of hoodies, hip hop, and big, hairy, audacious goals. If you're tired of living the life you think you should want want, and ready to start living the life you do want, this podcast will help you get from where you are to where you really want to be. So now we're friends. I invite you to grab a drink, take a seat, and allow me to guide you towards living a life that's lit. Hey. Hey. Welcome to episode 68 of the Triple C Project. This week we're just going to dive straight in because I'm tired, yo, and I just want to get straight to it and want to ask you one question. Do you trust yourself? Now, we can go a lot of ways with trust, but where I'm going with this is do you trust yourself to figure things out? Do you trust yourself to get the job done no matter what? Do you trust that you have it within you to figure out what you need to do when you need to do it? And do you trust that everything will come together? A lot of questions there, but they all lead to the same thing. They lead to that innate thing within you, that deep trust you have within your soul, trust in your intuition, in your gut. And it's something that is quite easily dismissed in favor of clear strategy, a logical plan. But I found that often when I just trust myself, and I don't just mean leave it all to the universe, although I believe in that, because you can't just leave it all to the universe. You've actually got to do shit yourself. I mean, actually trusting that you will figure it out, that you will get what you need from any given situation, no matter how it turns out. And this wasn't really what I was going to talk about today, but this came to me when my it's not just you community kicks off this week. So we kicked off on Monday this is the first week of the community. And as I said in an earlier episode, I wanted to create a community where I could bring people together who I thought would not only get on, but who had shared interests, who had issues or struggles or things that they were dealing with which they thought were unique to them, but I knew that they weren't. I knew there were other people who were dealing with the same thing. And I wanted to bring people like that together so that they could realize that they weren't alone and they could create this sense of community, of collaboration, of support and this idea. And again, I said this before, just came to me when I was on my Covid sick bed a couple of months ago when I couldn't really do anything else and I couldn't take action. I just had to just be. And it's in the being where sometimes the, the deepest ideas come from. But even when I had the idea and decided I'm going to run with it, and I decided today and I decided to start talking about it and promoting it and sharing posts about it and inviting current and former clients to be a part of it. Beyond what knowing that I wanted to bring people together in a space where they could collaborate and where they could get coaching and where they could get this transformation over the course of 21 days. I had no idea what the substance of that was going to be, but I trusted. I trusted that my intuition would lead me to deliver what needed to be delivered in the moment. I didn't want it to be too prescriptive because I didn't know who was going to be in the community. I didn't know what everybody was going to want. But I had an idea of the sorts of things that I would like to do. And I knew I wanted to use this as an opportunity to really express myself creatively in a way that would serve the members of that community. But I didn't know what that was going to be. I had no script, I had no worksheets, I had no pre recorded, recorded videos. I had no agenda, no curriculum. And so Monday came around and the group opened. People click the link, join the Slack group. And I had this space with nothing in it. And there would be nothing in it until I put something in it. And going back a few years when I was in Big Law and maybe even a few years beyond that, that would have absolutely terrified me. In fact, even maybe as recently as a couple of years ago, that would have terrified me. Because when you don't have a plan like, what do you hold onto like, where do you go? What do you do? But what was really interesting for me is that this week when this happened, it was liberating. It was amazing because I looked at this blank canvas of a community space and I was like, I can do anything. And that feeling, that belief could only come because I built this deep trust within myself. And this also happened with something I was asked to do at the back end of last year. So I can't remember I may have mentioned before that for the first three months of this year I been teaching at a university here in the uk, in London. And it was something that I was invited to do. And initially I was a bit like, meh. But the way that it's presented to me is like, this could be interesting, it could be a good challenge, it could allow me to develop some skills that I really wanted to work on, like standing up, talking in public, like putting together a course, like disseminating information in a particular way that engaged people. And so I thought I'd take it on, but there was no course. There was, there was the topic. I knew they sort. I knew the topic that I was teaching the module that I would be teaching, but there was no, there was no material, like nothing at all. All I knew was that within the module there were already six areas that I would cover two weeks per area, but that was it, just headings. So I basically committed myself to not only delivering a course to students on an undergrad law degree, but building this course effectively as I went along. And trust me, this is no mean feat. As I realized, I trusted that I could do it, but even I didn't anticipate this, the work that it would involve. I was literally going down to London one day a week, teaching back to back, two hours apiece seminars. And then I'd get to the end of the last seminar, just give a breath, a breath of relief and then be like, now I need to plan what I'm going to teach and record for the lecture on Monday and then the following Wednesday's seminars. And so it was literally like being on this hamster wheel. There wasn't really much time to stop and breathe. And bearing in mind I'm still doing everything else around that, you mean trying to run my business family, my sort of legal contracts here and there. So it's very, very full on. And this year where I was going to be, take a bit more space and time for myself turned into one where I just felt like I was always doing something. But I digress and I'll talk about That a little bit more another time. But I share that again to show that a few years ago I would never have done that. But even though it was a lot of work, and even though there were times where I'd be sitting on the train going down, just thinking, I still don't have a lesson plan. I know what I want to teach, but I don't have a plan. I just trusted that I could put it together, that I would figure it out. And that proved to be the case. From the feedback that I have and for my own evaluation of what I've done, I did it. I taught the course, I got the people through it. And so I'm sharing each of these examples not to tell you how great I am, because that's not the case at all. This trust only came about because I worked on it. Because instead of looking for things that could go wrong, looking at ways that I could fail, looking at ways that I had failed or I had made mistakes before, I looked at the evidence. I looked at my track record of what I had already achieved, and I looked at my track record. I looked at the evidence of having started things. And I knew myself well enough that when I start something, if I'm committed to it, I'm going to see it through. It doesn't really matter what happens along the way. I know I can figure it out. And I had evidence for that. I had more evidence for that than I had evidence for failing, for making huge mistakes. Doesn't mean that when I done things with this evidence that everything had turned out perfectly, not at all. But I'd always got what I needed from it. I'd learned lessons that had served me well. I'd figured out what I liked, what I didn't like. I figured out what was in alignment and what wasn't in alignment. And so it's taken time to build this level of trust, to really not give a cursory nod to my intuition, but to really listen to it, to really notice when I get that feeling in my gut that this is where you should be doing, this is where you should be going, you should grab that opportunity. And don't worry, you'll figure it out. You've done it before. You can do this. And to also notice where I don't get that feeling and to trust that my intuition is therefore telling me maybe this isn't the way to go. This isn't going to work out for you. This isn't really what you need right now. This isn't in alignment. And the more that I'VE come to notice this level, this intuition, the more that I've come to develop this sense of trust, the more expansive things feel for me, the more creative I feel that I can be, the more lit up I am. Because if you've ever tried to sit down and write a book, draw up a legal contract, draw a picture, and you've got this blank sheet of paper in front of you, that blank sheet of paper can be absolutely terrifying. And it can be so difficult. Because when, although you can put anything down on this blank sheet of paper, the fact that it's blank can make you just feel that whatever you put down has to be perfect as soon as you put it down. And it can be quite daunting. I know I've been there many, many times before. But once you have that level of trust, that deep trust within your soul that you'll figure it out, you can do this. That blank canvas, that blank sheet of paper, that blank screen becomes your playground. It becomes a thing of beauty, becomes a thing of joy. Because you see in your mind all of the things that you could create here, the places that you could go, the lines that you can make, the colors that you could use. And that's a beautiful thing. Such a beautiful thing. And so that's what I want to leave you with this week. I would invite you to think about that question. Do you trust yourself and think about decisions that you've made, decisions that you may have to make that might be coming up, and notice how you feel, notice how you're making those decisions. Are you strictly thinking about it from a logical standpoint? Are you strictly thinking it from it From a strategic standpoint? Do you feel that you need to have a very clear plan as to where this is heading? And if you do, that's cool. That's kind of how we conditioned. There's. There's nothing wrong with that. But if that is you, I want to invite you to step back a little bit and notice when you make these decisions or when these opportunities come up or when you have these ideas, don't just think logically about how it fits in to where you want to go or fits into your life. Notice how it feels deep within your gut. Notice how it feels within your body. Does it feel aligned? Does it light you up? And if it does, can you trust that feeling? Can you trust yourself? That's it for me this week. Thank you as always, for being here. And if you like the sound of it's not just you, community, and you want to be part of the next community playground, whatever that looks like. Head to the website iamryspence.com and get yourself on my mailing list. You can download the free Confidence Journal that will also get you onto my email list and you'll be the first to know about the next opening for the it's not just you community or whatever community it will be. Knowing me, it'll be something completely different. But again, I have that trust in myself to know that it'll be creative, it'll be amazing and it will serve you well. Look forward to hearing from you. Look forward to seeing you on the email list and until next week, Stop living a life of Lethargy. Start living life Lit. Thanks for tuning in to the Triple C project. If you love the show, if this resonated with you, you've got some valuable insights, let me know. You can find me on Instagram at I am Ryan Smith Spence or search for Ryan spence over on LinkedIn. To find out more about the show me or how to work with me as your Coach. Head to iamryanspence.com and get on my mailing list. Grab hold of my free Confidence Journal to help you start to build the belief you can do the things that you want to do. Thanks for being here, as always. Until next week, stop living a life of lethargy. Start living life lit.